channel4. docu' A Paedophile in my family.

Absolutely Blondiescot. Allsorts. Speaking for myself, I don't cope. I get up each morning and hope to get through and mine wasn't really sexual abuse, although I was offered money at 15 to 'come upstairs', so there are some very strong people out there.

nanna8

But we know it already and it will attract vile people who get their rocks off on that sort of thing. Same when they feature suicides you get copycats. I think it is appalling and would never watch that. They need to pull their heads in.

That’s a terrible thing to say. Someone who has been abused deserves for their story to be heard. I don’t believe for one second that a paedophile will be watching such a documentary. They are more likely to be viewing obscene material online. Given that they often live in some weird bubble where they convince themselves that the victim’wants’ it they will not want to be confronted by the truth and the harm. You need to give your head a wobble.

Silverlining and others who have suffered such abuse, I truly can’t think how you cope, the worst betrayal of an innocent child and that vile man even said it was her doing the running, words fail. The warning signs were loud and clear in last nights programme, as the neighbour said she was on her quard when he was around her child, others must have seen that, he had money for holidays just with his daughter, that’s weird. .As for fostering when wife working full time, surely someone could have picked up on that. The teachers knew her constant absences, didn’t they ever tell the mother, if not why not. That child was very badly let down. To think they think in any way guilty because that’s all they knew, what a burden on top of everything else..Pity that excuse for a man was let out of prison.
I think they should have emphasised much more how the perpetrator puts the fault on the victim.

Kate1949

But nanna8 with respect, that is some children's reality. How can we stop it if we don't show it?

Absolutely, Kate1949. As upsetting and distressing as it maybe to watch something like that, it's far more upsetting and distressing for those poor little ones for whom that is the reality of their everyday lives. It's only by shining a light into those darkest corners that we as a society can ever hope to make a difference to those children. If one person watches a programme like that and feels they can finally speak about what is happening (or has happened) to them, then surely that's a good thing? If it makes one abused child feel that they are not alone in going through something like that, then it's worthwhile.

Oh yes Smileless. I have so much empathy. Lives are ruined.

nan8 it is not what is broadcast but the way that they do it and properly done this subject needs to be discussed in the public sphere.

It may encourage more victims to tell the police what happened to them.

That's true Katie but you can have empathy.

I don't believe it encourages 'copycats'. People are either that way inclined or not and goodness knows there are plenty of them.

Its like anything in life I suppose. If you haven't it experienced it, you can't possibly understand. I wish Simeone had interfered in our home life and saved us from horror and misery.

of this not if

It needs to be talked about nanna and we should applaud those prepared to do so publicly, because that shows others who've been abused that the guilt and shame is not theirs to carry and belongs to the perpetrator.

If just one person for the first time, is able to speak to someone about the abuse they suffered because if this documentary, Emily has done something truly wonderful.

Nanna8 Disgusted. Shame on you.

Kate1949 Thankyou. Can empathise with Broken.

But we know it already and it will attract vile people who get their rocks off on that sort of thing. Same when they feature suicides you get copycats. I think it is appalling and would never watch that. They need to pull their heads in.

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It's really important to talk about the reality if sone childrens lives.

But nanna8 with respect, that is some children's reality. How can we stop it if we don't show it?

silverlining mine too from a family member (not my father) and thank God not for such a prolonged period.

I too applaud and support Emily's bravery but couldn't have watched the documentary. After all these years it would have been too triggering.

Well that is what I call scraping the bottom of the barrel to show something like that. Disgusting.

Well done to you for coming through silverlining. Abuse in childhood, whether sexual, physical or mental, never goes away. I applaud anyone, including myself, who is still here, although broken.

Thanks downtoearth. It took me a bit of courage to say Me too this morning, and I am anonymous, but needed to applaud and support the bravery of Emily.
Such vile abuse from a parent betrays childhood innocence and turns it into a guilty secret.
I wish her well but worry for her. Its a dreadful, probably lifelong, burden.

FindingNemo15

If the mother was made to work longer hours to put food on the table, how come she said nothing and was not suspicious when he could afford to take the girl to New York a couple of times.

Exactly what I thought!

If the mother was made to work longer hours to put food on the table, how come she said nothing and was not suspicious when he could afford to take the girl to New York a couple of times.

I know there are several other GN who have mentioned abuse in their background .

Silverlining I cant find the words to say to you.
easy to send butI hope they say a lot to you how I feel for you.

That brave and damaged young woman’s story is my story and sadly we are not alone.
I wish her and the many others with the same history peace and a way through what is one of the worst betrayals by a parent that a child can experience. It’s life long trauma, neither forgotten nor forgiven.