channel4. docu' A Paedophile in my family.

Allsorts you really cannot make a statement like that unless you knew all the circumstances.

The mother could have been the victim of psychological control.

That’s something I definitely won’t be watching

I'm afraid if I was a mother I wouldn't work full time to leave my two year old with a man too shiftless to work, who fostered other as well.

he arranged things to keep the mother out of the way; she had to work long hours to pay the bills.
he kept the girl off school, and took her for activities, and away for birthdays,
the mother couldn't come as she had to work.
interestingly, the mother of a school-friend said she felt a bit uneasy around him, he seemed over-familiar.
but no one had any idea what he was really like.

I think at times someone can be vaguely aware that something is not quite right, but have no idea what it is - and in that situation, paedophlia, comes well down the list of things that might occur to you. You would be far more likely to consider an afffair - a homosexual affair, involvment in crime, blackmail before the idea you were married to a paedophile would occur.

She was abused from 2 years old sadly.

I still find it really hard to believe the mother did not know anything about what was going on.

i think her first memories were about bedtime stories aged 5 pr 6.
but of course it may have been earlier.
she said he was v popular with everyone.
and somehow persuaded his wife to work more and more hours while he became a foster carer.
so he must have been selected for that.
i don't know what work her mother did.
but he kept the girl off school frequently, and no one seemed to wonder if everything was ok.
the mother didn't know, she was at work.
school and others said the girl was always so cheerful and pleasant, achieved well.
and then looking back, she felt guilty about that too.
she just had to survive.
she decided to report him when she was 17 and it dawned on her that by keeping quiet she was not protecting others, and he might well have been abusing others too.
he was about to be released, and declined to meet her, as he said it might interfere with his progress !

Just finished watching it. I didn’t hear at what age the abuse started and can’t understand why over so many years no one noticed. It was stated that 2 out of 20 children at school are abused, that’s an unbelievable figure. I can’t say I understand any more about it than I did before. I don’t see how anyone could get over something like that, any one that does that to a child should be castrated and imprisoned, as for your own father doing it, throw away the key.