Sex and relationships webchat with Trudy Hannington

I agree with Kitty for the same reasons. I am not really interested either.

Oh, I think kitty is interested. Definitely.

Woman's health clinics might give advice.

I feel a bit sorry for Trudy. How is she going to cope with you all?

pubic interest Granny23

Was that deliberate Granny23?

I have had a real giggle reading theses. I think jings should have her own radio/ TV show. I am going to ask a question though. If you ever meet me promise you'll forget I've asked this. Right up until my mid 50's I really was interested in sex. I could even be known to look at attractive men in the street. But it's gone. The whole thing. I never think or feel like sex. I'm so disinterested that I don't even miss it. Actually on some level I think it's freeing. I can now have a banter with men without worrying that they think I might be coming on to them or indeed they might be coming on to me. I have on occasions wondered if I should do anything about it but I just can't be arsed bothered. The thought of gels and creams is really off putting. Now my husband does somtimes ask why and I do tell him. I think he would like me to show an interest occasionally but accepts that we are happier now than ever. I'm much easier to live with than my old hormone crazed self. I don't think I've asked a question really I'm just wondering is this more common than I think or am I odd?

Good for all of you who think you know all there is to know by the time you get to our age! Some of us may have questions to be answered. Kiora wonders if she is in the minority in not feeling like sex because she probably doesn't want to go round asking all, her friends !! You never know when you might meet a G netter in the flesh, and be embarrassed that they know your darkest secret about the leather, chains and whips in your wardrobe.

Following on from those very sensible suggestions - what if an OH is too shy to go to the doctor to ask for Viagra? I have heard that there are all sorts of dodgy substitutes out there.

I read somewhere that there are only sexual problems in a relationship if one person in the couple is unhappy with the way things are. Which may seem obvious, but many people think they have a problem purely because so many other people think they ought to be having more sex. All those magazine surveys have a lot to answer for, and how do we know people are telling the truth? The surveys I used to read in magazines (now given them up, too many adverts) all showed that sex lives slowed down hugely when people are only in their 40s. Older couples may part company and find a new partner, but then the desire once more settles down very quickly into affection, often after only a year or so. Some people have a very high sex drive, others do not, and it's really a bit of a lottery as to who you end up with, isn't it.

To say nothing of all the illnesses and ailments, stresses and tiredness, worry about ageing bodies and impotence. Boredom with the same old sexual routine but not wanting to hurt your partner's feelings.

Besides - I have been to a few dinner parties lately where there have been a mixture of older and us slightly younger couples. One of my friends is in her 50s, like me, and given to wearing low-cut tops and has a very flirtatious manner. Rather than being charmed by her, as all men seemed to be only a few years ago, the older ones in their mid 60s and above looked plain scared!

Well, I can only say, Kiora, that I feel exactly the same way as you. Can I also say that Granny 23's questions are very good and just about sum up every possible problem/query. I've often wondered, with regards to Viagra, Cialis etc, if the doctors that prescribe it consult with the mens wive/partners before they do a prescription.

I shouldn't think so, it may be for a person outside the relationship's benefit.

Fantasies are nice. Some of the best orgasms can happen in your head.

I am reminded of a holiday we had in India. We met a couple who saved us sunbeds next to them every morning but then they slept for most of the day. We had a friendly evening over a few drinks with them and some other couples and it turned out that all the men were on viagra purchased from the local pharmacy. My OH gave me a look which said 'don't even think about it!' Apparently there were different strengths and we had a very amusing evening all knowing we would never see each other again after the holiday so it didn't really matter what we said.

Unfortunately, it takes two to tango, and when you're widowed, disabled, and housebound, it's difficult to find alternatives.

I haven't had a fantasy for a few years now.

Everything stops at 70.

Hey Jing I'm not 70 unti Dec 3!
But what can I do in the few remaining weeks?

Well I did ask a serious question.

I know you did gillybob. A very hard to answer one.

Jingl it is well past your bedtime!

Well, you need to get a handsome young fellow in mind. Benedict Cumberbatch? And then you snuggle under the duvet. And you start thinking....

Good way to get off to sleep.

Failing that, think of nice things to eat. Like treacle tart.

Is it?

Ooh yes! Bedtime.

Oh no, not BC! I can't help thinking that his mother is Wanda Whatsit, and anyway I don't fancy him...

Is what Madam?!

Horlicks!