Sex after 60 (NAME CHANGING ALLOWED)

I really DON'T have a problem with talking about sex. What I DO have a problem with is people who think they know best and who make others feel guilty because they do not agree with what they are pushing.

I do not believe that anyone should discuss their sex life with other strangers because I think it is a beautiful, wonderful but PRIVATE human intamacy. I think it is a betrayal of the OH when you talk about their needs or their lack of interest.

Perhaps hotmama the medication has more of an effect on your DH than you think. Also perhaps the reason for the medication could impact him. He might be concerned for his health or just lost interest (I don't mean in you). Try looking up his medication or condition on the Internet and see what the side effects are. Hope you can persuade him to discuss it more as it is obviously upsetting you. I do also agree with others that it is possible to have a very loving relationship with or without sex. Depends on the individuals involved.

wobbly remember your bits. Take care in the car and don't get a puncture

My question is what do you do if one wants sex and the other has lost interest. We have been married only nine years and up to the last 18 months enjoyed a good sex life. However, that has all disappeared with my husband saying he has little or no interest in making love any more. I'm heart broken as I love sex and always have done. He is on medication which of course may have something to do with it but what hurts the most is he has no intention of doing anything about it even though he knows how unhappy I am about the situation. I always keep myself nice and slim , hair, makeup etc, but am beginning to feel very unattractive. I love him to bits and he says he loves me but doesn't have any desire to go back to how we were. I try not to dwell on it and get on with my life. But it's a major factor missing in my life. Thanks to Gransnet for letting me offload.

Behave Wobbly!

I think it is great that some of us can talk openly about sex in later years and still enjoy it, even if less gymnastic. Other simply get their enjoyment from a loving relationship where sex no longer plays a major part. Either way it is great that the older generation can feel young at heart. Our son has bought a new car today !, wonder if we will be asked to babysit again soon.

Yorkshiregirl I see this thread has hit a raw nerve and I am sorry about that but if discussing sex makes you feel uncomfortable just change the page.
"If you enjoy sex" seems to me a very odd thing to say. Loving consensual sex is the most wonderful experience ever and It is sad that some people never (or no longer) experience it.

To be fair yorkshiregel Marie doesn't seem to be insisting that she knows best, she seems (to me) to be trying to help people to enjoy sex at any age, which also may help with their health and wellbeing.

Sorry for the rant. This woman Marie de Hennezel and others like her really annoy me. Stop insisting that you know best. People will make up their own minds. We certainly are living in a Nanny State these days.

Why is it that some people keep pushing others to carry on with sex after 60? Surely that is a personal choice? Some people cannot enjoy sex because of health problems, others are glad to see the back of it and I don't just mean women, men as well. They just do not want it anymore. I know a couple who have had a very loving relationship without sex. Anyone would think that people cannot be happy without it. Look around you, not everyone is sex mad.

I am fed up with all these people who lay down the law about what we should or should not be doing. It is the same for the young wives with breast feeding. They are pushed in to believing that breast feeding is the only way and some cannot do it and are made to feel guilty because they cannot feed their babies.

If you enjoy sex fair enough, if you do not it is no concern of anyone else'. I think we all should mind our own business!

Crafting - well, we are children of the 60s!

Group sex kitty (your post 7:28)

wobbly, you are awful, but I like you .

Specki hope all goes well for you both.

I'm not sure this thread is going in the correct direction.

Laughter and fun (in a good way) is probably the answer Specki or has the weekend already begun?

I should be so lucky!

Spek, from a man's point of view, don't rush him, let things just happen and don't expect too much. Ne may well be as apprehensive as you, not all of us can perform the way we used to. The journey can often be more enjoyable than the destination.

speki I was once in the same position as you speak of. Just go with the flow. Be prepared..... in case there are a few special moments. I'd doubt he'd expect to use the guest room.

We could have changed our usernames Shanma

Now, who could I be?
ErmintrudeShufflebottom has a ring to it, can I change to that please GN?

f77ms: Do you have trouble reading English? My post questioned why anyone would wish to discuss their sex lives on a public Forum, and I wrote that I found it strange. I did not write that it offends me.

Wobbly, you do make me laugh

how , I don't get out much

Wobblybits
that has made my evening!

rofl

Not sure what I would have done if it was one of these newfangled AC/DC thingies. But to make sure it was safe sex, I put out the warning triangle.

Wobbly

Hope you weren't too 'exhausted' after that, wobbly! Sorry folks! Back in my box now!

Didn't see that coming Wobblybits

The lady who will (hopefully ) respond to our comments/questions is french, and I'm slowly discovering how different the french attitude is to sexual matters.
They seem to be much more pragmatic, you don't hear jokes about it so much. Just open - "he/ she's feeling amoureux/se" etc . Maybe something to do with the fact that so much of France is agricultural.
It would be interesting to hear her views on these differences.