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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Tue 15-Nov-16 09:37:00

The sexuality of people over a certain age seems to be something of a taboo subject - but not for esteemed French psychologist Marie de Hennezel.

In her new book, Sex After Sixty: a French guide to loving intimacy, she looks at how emotional intimacy plays a huge role in maintaining a sex life as you age and how knowing how to take pleasure as it comes, rather than focussing on what could be, can be the key to a more erotic and satisfying sexuality.

She will be answering your questions on the above and more - simply leave them on this thread before Tuesday 29 November. Note that if you'd prefer to change your name for this, that is absolutely fine - just drop us a line at [email protected] and we can sort that out.

Marie de Hennezel is the author of two ministerial reports about caring for those with terminal illnesses, and has written ten books about growing older, including the Sunday Times top-5 bestseller The Warmth of the Heart Prevents Your Body from Rusting. Her books have been translated into 22 languages.

From attending Tantric workshops to interviewing dozens of sexually active older people, de Hennezel looks at the role that sex plays in our health and sets out on a quest to discover how you can continue to enjoy a satisfying sex life into old age. She brings her insight as a psychotherapist - along with her Gallic joie de vivre and frankness - to bear on a subject that has been brushed under the carpet for too long. Having seen the sexual revolution first-hand in France in the 1960s and 70s, today de Hennezel - born in 1946 - argues that it's time for a new sexual revolution, one which acknowledges that sex is important at any stage of adulthood, and which embraces many different ways of making love. In a society saturated by online porn and 'hook-up culture', reflecting on intimacy and learning from those who know how to make it last is more important than ever, making her book essential reading for lovers of any age.

ixion Fri 26-Aug-22 19:30:38

Wow.
Just loving this thread!

Did all this really pass muster in 2016?
I'm impressed - but I do think it should come with a warning notice about the type of humour contained within, these days.

Margomar Fri 26-Aug-22 19:18:04

My DH takes medication for hypertension, it seems to have killed off his libido. Prior to this we had sex about 3 times a month, it was great, very important to us emotionally but he needed help from Viagra which he bought himself. He’s shy of talking to a GP about it. He’s 77 and in fairly good shape, as am I ! I wonder if loss of sex drive is a known side effect of this medication ( Ramipril) ?

timetogo2016 Fri 03-Jun-22 16:45:53

Well it hasn`t stopped you reading the posts Shanma.
It`s a fun thread.
I`m off to buy red wine and a chastity belt as Dh is popping to the pub and comes home with a grin on his face.
I`m hoping the red wine will make me mmmmm.

Single45guy Tue 26-Apr-22 11:46:53

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Jane71 Mon 06-Dec-21 12:51:16

I've so enjoyed reading this thread as so many of the posts made me chuckle. Never thought I would laugh so much when I joined GN!

MissAdventure Mon 06-Dec-21 01:44:57

I'd need a pre nup.
My statutory sick pay is at stake here.
92 quid a week...

FarNorth Mon 06-Dec-21 01:40:07

Ooh! A middle-aged white man, my heart's desire! ?

welbeck Mon 06-Dec-21 01:38:46

think he'd need to see the size of your bank balance first.
have you got a big one ? yes? you're in with a chance !

Chewbacca Mon 06-Dec-21 01:19:57

You can be so peevish sometimes! grin

Chewbacca Mon 06-Dec-21 01:19:10

Walked right into that one didn't I! grin

MissAdventure Mon 06-Dec-21 00:57:14

He wants age up to 95.
You're in! grin

Chewbacca Mon 06-Dec-21 00:54:52

We look gorgeous MissAdventure, verydependable1 will pick one of us for sure. ?

MissAdventure Mon 06-Dec-21 00:37:57

Oh I'm too young!
I do look really rough though.

MissAdventure Mon 06-Dec-21 00:36:27

And just like that...
The queue begins!

Chewbacca Mon 06-Dec-21 00:28:01

I'm 45 white divorced and want to meet an older lady 65-95 to marry in my heart.That is my desire.

You're in just the right place chum! Hang around for a while and they'll be queuing up! gringrin

Verydependable1 Mon 06-Dec-21 00:10:42

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MissAdventure Thu 02-Dec-21 16:35:18

And lips, I'd imagine
wink

lemongrove Thu 02-Dec-21 16:33:01

Glamma....this thread is five years old and about a totally different kind of fillers.?

sodapop Thu 02-Dec-21 15:43:50

Another very old thread resurrected. Think you need to start a new thread GlammakAz59

GlammakAz59 Thu 02-Dec-21 13:33:34

Wondering if any grandnetters have vertical lip lines and have any cosmetic treatment because they would rather not have them? I once tried fillers but didn't like the effect has anyone tried a different treatment? I've looked after my skin don't smoke I'm 65 but feel that this does bother me. Easy on me please i don't post much. Thankyou.

wot Tue 29-May-18 16:36:10

Silly little kid, methinks.

stevierichards1954 Tue 29-May-18 15:26:50

Wear

stevierichards1954 Tue 29-May-18 15:26:19

Step one. I don't west any panties on romance nights lol

rubylady Tue 29-Nov-16 19:09:42

Greatmum So sad to read your post, it must be extremely hard to live with someone and not get the love you crave. I really do feel for you. flowers

Wobbly I didn't know that you were suffering from depression and have a tumour. You always sound so upbeat and post funny things. I send you a hug. ((hug)) I take comfort in your posts on this subject as I would like to be in a relationship, but due to health problems, would not want to be like a tigress in the bedroom. I would want kindness and care and love, not just lust. So to read that some men don't just want the sex side too gives me hope. smile

Yorkshiregel Tue 29-Nov-16 16:18:30

Greatmum that is so sad. I feel so sorry for you both.