Engagement present for couple who don’t need anythjng

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I wouldn't have thought an engagement present was necessary as they have both been married before. Most second marriages insist on no presents or ask for donations to a specific charity.

On the other hand, I know someone who has been married three times, and renewed her vows eight years into her third marriage, holding a second reception and with a present list asking for 'anything from Le Creuset.'

Voucher for a meal in a local restaurant.
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They are probably married by now!

How about a day at a spa. Let them get pampered and relaxed for a day. Or a voucher for a meal at their favourite restaurant?

kittylester

A good bottle of bubbles with special glasses.

just what I was about to suggest. Expensive pink champagne and some beautiful rock crystal cut glass glasses.

This sounds like a lovely option.

Beautiful glasses that shimmer under candlelight with champagne and sweet kisses.

aggie

I know this is an old thread !
But so is the idea of an engagement present , I got engaged over 55 years ago and got bottom drawer , presents , but the best one was a book token , with instructions to buy a cookery book !
I bought a Marguerite Pattens latest offering and still use it

Same here, aggie. We got engaged in 1972, and all our gifts were useful ones, but then couples didn’t live together before getting married. I remember getting three ‘dollies’ made fron dishcloths and tea towels wrapped around a wooden spoon with a face drawn on it, so that must have been a ‘thing’. I also remember washing lines and clothes pegs.

I know this is an old thread !
But so is the idea of an engagement present , I got engaged over 55 years ago and got bottom drawer , presents , but the best one was a book token , with instructions to buy a cookery book !
I bought a Marguerite Pattens latest offering and still use it

Circa 1974 when my then best friend got married I naturally bought her a present and some incredibly pretty wrapping paper for it. I lived rurally and it was an epic trek into town. When I got home I realised the words on the wrapping paper said "On Your Engagement". I was so cross with myself but the point is that engagement presents have obviously been a thing for at least 50 years.

I've done this twice with great success in the past .
I would certainly do it again .
Take some really good photos of them .
Contact an artist who works from photographs and have a portrait done .
This would make a great wedding gift as well .

Daddima

For a ‘vow renewal’ last year I gave a couple who have been married for years a ‘ Highland Title’, so they can be Lord and Lady of the Glen!
Just a useless bit of fun, but they enjoyed it, and have given the certificate pride of place!

I’ve just noticed this is a year old!
Still, may be useful to someone.

Calendargirl, at the time we set a wedding date (just over 50 years ago now) dh thought ‘getting engaged’ was desperately un-cool. So although I’d have quite liked an engagement ring, I didn’t push it.

He later bought me a lovely emerald and diamond ring right after the birth of dd2, which TBH meant a great deal more to me.
A neighbour said, ‘You got that for a GIRL’?
To be fair, she was from a non-Brit culture in which boys were very much ‘best’.

For a ‘vow renewal’ last year I gave a couple who have been married for years a ‘ Highland Title’, so they can be Lord and Lady of the Glen!
Just a useless bit of fun, but they enjoyed it, and have given the certificate pride of place!

BlueBelle I was engaged in the early 1960's. We received lots of gifts and congratulations cards. It was the norm in those days.

This is an old post! Wonder if they're still engaged!

Never heard of engagement gifts.

Yes, it was the same for us, too Aldom - gifts for the bottom drawer and only from family as I recall - things such as tea towels, towels, tablecloths, pans etc. It wasn’t an expectation, it just happened, so perhaps it wasn’t the usual thing to give engagement gifts.
I think in this case, some of the ideas already mentioned are nice, such as a plant or perhaps a bottle of champagne and two nice flutes if they drink or a voucher for something special such as an afternoon tea/meal at a nice venue.

Germanshepherdsmum

I didn’t think engagement gifts were given, just wedding gifts.

When I was engaged we received gifts for our 'bottom drawer'. But that was a long time ago, when girls had a bottom drawer and it was the first time of becoming engaged.
I'm invited to a fortieth wedding anniversary dinner. The invitations ask that no one offer gifts.

When my mam was alive and didn’t know what to get as an engagement present she always opted for a good quality set of white towels. She said white went with any setting and washed well.

Have read through the comments with interest.

As others have said, how times change.

To me, getting engaged 51 years ago was considered a ‘big’ thing.

You met a boy, you got on, you ‘courted’ (how quaint), you then ‘went steady’ and after a while, you got engaged, got married, and in time, started your family.

Well, at least, it hopefully worked out in that order!

But the getting engaged and maybe having it in the local paper was a definite sign that you had found your mister right, and were committed to a future together.

But back then, you probably both still lived at home with parents, you didn’t live together, and your engagement ring was a real sign to the rest of the world.

Having said all that, don’t think we ever got any presents. Didn’t expect any. The ring was all you needed.

Can you make them something? Sloe gin, fruit cake, napkins, matching bobble hats?

You could get a painting made up from a photo of their house, plus a frame?

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/755199849/custom-house-portrait-our-first-home-an?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_custom1=_k_92159143f4e714d60d41f46d1bf1c871_k_&utm_custom2=420373312&msclkid=92159143f4e714d60d41f46d1bf1c871

what about a goat for a poor family in somaliland, given in their name, or similar.
as they don't need anything, they might like to think about and contribute to, those who do.