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Do you feel increasingly lonely and lose trust in people after a divorce?

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Melissa8 Fri 27-Sept-24 22:06:42

My past experiences have left me skeptical of commitment and fidelity, and my heart is full of unease. Whenever I see a potential partner, my inner fears and doubts will make me hesitate for fear of getting hurt again

NotSpaghetti Sat 28-Sept-24 10:12:11

So sorry to hear this.
Not everyone is the same. flowers

Not very helpful I know.
Are you making friends first or only looking for potential partners? I think that looking for friendships may help.

Georgesgran Sat 28-Sept-24 10:18:43

POSTER IN USA - has started another thread, which is not taken as genuine,

Granmarderby10 Sat 28-Sept-24 10:20:16

Melissa8 in all honesty I have never in my life identified a potential partner without first having a good reason to like them first.
Trust your own judgment ,take your time and pay attention to your feelings and what they are telling you.

crazyH Sat 28-Sept-24 10:26:14

Sorry to hear that Melisa.
I have been divorced for 20 years. I too have been scarred by infedility and have not wanted another partner. Maybe I’m wrong. I am not lonely. I have a large family and lots of friends. However, there are times when I must admit, I feel I would like a companion to go on holidays etc. Having said that, I’m too old now .
You are probably much younger than me - make the best of it. And remember, not all men are the same. Hope you find the right one flowers

Emmy0A Mon 07-Jul-25 17:48:51

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Milsa Mon 07-Jul-25 18:01:00

No, I don't have problems with men because it is one on one. But since I lost my school friends and my country friends from my youth and migrated, I have never learned how to find such deep intimate friendships ....all the people I met before meeting my husband were snippy, jealous, criticizing - I am talking international folk 20 to 32 in church youth groups. I closed my heart and since then do not allow strangers in it - not sure what to do about it