I agree feetlebaum I told my late DH that if it is possible to make contact he had to do so direct, not through someone else! There have been times I have felt his presence and I am sure he is watching over me BUT I don't share these experiences with others.
I did once tell one of his sisters and she now refuses to come into my house, so this lady needs to be made aware that whilst it is not something that worries her it can have a detrimental affect on others.
Apparently - Employers are not working people
When did perimenopause become so popular?
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