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Have had a complete meltdown at work! [sad]

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sodapop Mon 18-May-20 08:48:53

Things have a way of mounting up and suddenly being too much Evie64 happens to all of us at some point especially in this current crisis.
Puzzler61 had some good advice, look after yourself now.

Grammaretto Mon 18-May-20 08:42:08

You sound as though you have been overdoing it - taking too much responsibility and now it is time to rest up.
Of course you will be feeling as though you are letting the side down but you are no earthly use exhausted and weepy.

My DB who is a teacher in Denmark has been back at school a month but it is older children and even then he says they are fine in the classroom but as soon as they are outside they are back to the usual unsafe distancing.

On the plus side, the virus doesn't carry well out doors and prefers a cold dark cave to flourish - remember the bats?
Children don't seem to be passing it on, the way they do with every other virus or infection.
Take care Evie you are not alone.

Puzzler61 Mon 18-May-20 07:52:16

Evie be kind to yourself, you’re not being over the top, you’re overwrought and I hope your gp is supportive.

If it’s admin work could the school give you work to do at home (when you are ready)?

I know someone who is early 60’s with chronic asthma and her employee said she was to stay at home for 12 weeks, without working, but on full pay.

This is a time to let fitter people do the work I think, and put your health first.

mumofmadboys Mon 18-May-20 07:39:54

If you work in admin could you work in an office by yourself and would wearing a face mask when you have to leave the office help?

Hetty58 Mon 18-May-20 07:15:23

Evie64, nobody should be expected to work in an unsafe situation.

You have judged, quite correctly, that at 65 with chronic bronchitis, the risk of catching Covid and becoming very unwell, is unacceptable to you.

Other people at work, perhaps younger, with no health conditions, feel confident and ignore social distancing.

You have every right to stay at home until your employer can do a risk assessment and make changes to ensure your safety.

Regardless of that legal situation, I'd be inclined to stay away completely. Take sick leave while you weigh up the options available to you. Maybe it's time to retire?

cornergran Mon 18-May-20 07:14:34

It seems to me your understandable and human reaction will soon be replicated across the country evie across all sorts of work settings. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. I’m sure your GP will understand, after all most are only offering telephone consultations at the moment. Be honest in your consultation, the telephone or a video call will work just as well as face to face. Please stop blaming yourself, your reaction is understandable, be gentle and allow yourself to recover.

PamelaJ1 Mon 18-May-20 06:56:10

You seem to be a perfect example of the problems that lie ahead. Stop beating yourself up.

Hope you feel better soon.

V3ra Mon 18-May-20 02:29:02

Not over the top at all. You have every right to be concerned about the lack of social distancing possible in school.

I would think you'll have a telephone appointment with your GP, then if a prescription is required it will be ready at the pharmacy for you to collect. That's what my husband has had twice during lockdown.

It sounds like you've been working hard and need a break now. You haven't let the team down and I hope they won't think that.

Evie64 Mon 18-May-20 00:42:07

I work in a primary school close to a large hospital here in Exeter. We have stayed open throughout the lockdown and the Easter Holidays. I work in the admin team, the engine room of the school. It's been building up but last Wednesday I had a total meltdown and couldn't stop crying. Nobody is observing social distancing despite us sticking tape to the floor indicating 2 metres from our desks. I do get it, the teachers and teaching assistants can't socially distance from the 50+ children of front line workers that we have in school, but I have become genuinely frightened. We have had one child with a confirmed case of Covid. I'm 65 with chronic bronchitis. I was sent home and since then seem to have slipped into a "black hole" that I can't climb out of. Can barely get out of bed some days. I'm planning to phone my GP tomorrow but will I be allowed to see him face to face? Who knows? Now the Gov are saying years F, 1 & 6 back into school, and all staff, from 1st June. In our school thats 270 children just those year groups. I'm so worried and feel like I've let the team down as everyone else seems okay to be in school and put up with it. Am I being "over the top".