Bullying at work

As the manager of a team, I'd be horrified if any of them treated a colleague in this way... it's cruel and it's bullying.
I'd have no qualms whatsoever in beginning disciplinary action against them.
Please speak to your manager about this and any other incidents of poor behaviour that you have experienced from the individual.

Thistle, you are not being too sensitive. I hope you can soon take this to the manager and the unpleasant colleague will be admonished, and you be assured that the manager or the personnel person is always available for you should you need them.

As well as keeping a record do not respond or try and be kind to them and let them show who they are to other people too

What an unkind thing to do. Definitely bullying. It would help your case if you can obtain a copy of the list.
Good luck with your follow up.

What a very cruel and nasty thing to do. You definitely must take this to your manager, higher up the chain if not dealt with adequately.
Good luck to you Thistle, you sound like a good person, no one deserves this sort of treatment and I’m glad you have at least one supportive and decent friend in the workplace, probably more once the bully is outed.

What are the others involved like? If they would be on your side you could style it out by using all of the phrases and getting them to score them until the bully wins, then all shout 'House' together. That way you have made your point and shown up the bully for what they are, without needing to involve your manager.

Actually conciliation is spelt with a c not s !

Should you need it ACAS has been a tremendous help to me in recent months as I too felt forced to resign over age discrimination and bullying tactics by both my manager and someone who was on maternity leave and then came back. It’s effectively ended my career however ACAS helped me gain some justice using early consiliation though to prove my point I requested a subject access request where I was named on various meetings and email. I had my proof. I didn’t go through the grievance procedure as felt it was heavily biased within the organisation. What I gained was closure.

In hindsight - sounds recordings, screen shots, clear lists does, events..but at the time if often creeps up on you.

good idea if friendly co-worker will go with you but not to expect?

I am really sorry to hear this. Please nip it in the bud and take it to your manager/HR. Do you have a copy of the list they produced? Was it done on company time and using company paper? Are they male or female? Do you have a lot of co-workers or just a few? Is your boss a good boss or is your HR department good? Some of these people are very clever and sneeky and are just bullies for the sake of it. I would have a clear picture of who, what and possibly why this person does this before taking it further so you are confident in your steps when you report to your manager. Bullying should never be tolerated but I am afraid that there are some very nasty people out there who don't understand good old fashioned good behaviour.

I’m sure you know this anyway but keep a record of everything that this person does to you as and when it happens so you don’t have to trust your memory. It’s horrible when this happens. I had it with one of my bosses for years: in retrospect I don’t know how I coped x

I doubt that there is any reason why they picked on you, some people are just bullies. If it wasn’t you then it would have been somebody else.

I do hope this person is dismissed and it is made clear the impact that their behaviour has on the victim.

Thank you everyone for your comments, it has reinforced my resolve to bring it to my managers attention.

Not maybe as important in this particular situation, but in any bullying situation, I always ask, is that person nasty to other people as well, or just you?

That's absolutely awful

Please do go to your manager. I'd ask your coworker if they would be willing to do so too.

I'd take it to your boss, as long as you respect your boss as someone who will be fair and just.

The nasty co-worker may say if you go 1 2 1 , "oh you can't take a joke, a bit of Christmas fun", but its not. It needs nipping in the bud. if I were in. your shoes I could want the boss to take the nasty one aside and say, "enough, no more" but not punish but get a warning.

You may want to have think about whether you want all the workers to know about bully being called to heel and how or whether just the bully cautioned. Very situation dependant. and good for you.

I let myself be bullied by a man years a go at work and left - inadequate boss - after he then went on to bully others he was eventually got rid of. I wish I was the person I am now to deal with it!

Such mean, nasty people about😡. You need to see your Boss about it .

Thank you for your kindness, I am going to bring this to the attention of my manager I just needed reassuring that I was not being oversensitive. I have never encountered anything like this in my 40 year working life and can only conclude that this is a particularly nasty individual.

I’m so sorry you have been subjected to this unkindness. What a lot it says about his or her character. Head to head I think is the way to sort this. Most bullies cave in when challenged, tell her calmly, in straight language you’re not having it. If it continues go further up the chain. What an unpleasant individual this person sounds. Good luck I hope you can knock this abuse on the head.

It is a very trusted co-worker who immediately destroyed the bingo list given to them and would support me. I cannot understand the reason why someone would put so much effort into producing, printing and distributing a bingo list about me, I suppose I am just requiring validation that this is totally unacceptable.

Who brought it to your attention? Can you trust their motives? Would they support you if you go to your boss? It's a very unkind thing to do and looks like bullying.