Oh yes, maybe lack of self awareness is a good one. Do we really think there are men who think its welcome or ok to touch a woman without permission or encouragement? Mind you, perhaps a smile is considered "encouragement!"
It doesn't bother me massively, but a colleague the other day - I said I wouldn't want more than a hug, then he touched my bum. I havent said anything as hes away now but its playing on my mind how he could go from a hug to a touch on the bum??
I think grumppa has hit the nail on the head. It’s not a problem I had with professional colleagues, but some clients had to be told that I wasn’t interested. Just ignore them OP and don’t try to analyse their motives - if you’re not interested, you’re not interested, end of.
Do you think we should add "Delusional men" who think women enjoy it or think they are flirting???
So it could be just opportunity Monica? Just them thinking "she won't tell anyone and if she does, I'll say she made a pass at me first" type of thing? I'm sure there are men who victim blame. Its just important the rest of us don't. Saying that a man cant control his urges seems to be part of the problem, t me.
I don’t know the answer but I have had problems in the pass and I have been witness. Men used (but it still happens) be brought up to think they are superior, it’s theirs for the taking, young and old.
I hesitate to step in here, but I think there is one category missing from OP's original list: delusional males who like to think they are God's gift to women, and tell themselves, when turned down, that that is the woman's loss, not his. Not my type, I hasten to add!
It’s certainly not hate, if you want call it “animal instinct”compare it with a dog, he sniffs another dog, a male probably won’t react, a bitch will snap at him sometimes very aggressively he will back off.
Before anyone says animals don’t commit rape, oh yes they do a group of young males can get very sexually aggressive.
I heard my boss referring to a man who "cannot" control himself around a woman so cannot be alone with that woman. I must admit, I've always thought that men could control themselves if they wanted to.
From what little I know, I would say that your points 1 2 and 3 are a maybe.
Point 4, I dont think any man cannot control himself, if he really wanted to. In my opinion.
How to know? - I think some men do give red flags. Not all. Some red flags being Invading personal space Crude jokes General behaviour such as thinking it is fine to talk about women in general degrading terms.
That list may not mean they do go on to harass women. But I do think some of those behaviours indicate their personal boundaries are not where they should be.
In my past and present working life I've been harassed a fair bit and realised I want to understand WHY to move on. Its not currently happening, but I wanted to ask what GN thinks:
What makes a man sexually harass a woman? Is it he desires her but feels the only female contact he can have is if he takes it? Or he hates women and longs to punish? Or does he hate himself and think women hate him? Or he's overcome with uncontrolled passion? Or what???
Is there some kind of way to know someone is a predator before they strike?