Any words of wisdom? After training part time in my second career for 20 years I’ve finally reached the top of the ladder and have my “dream job”.
In fact it’s not what I had expected - ridiculous hours (double what I’m paid for) and hugely stressful deadlines which I often can’t meet (largely due to me being a control freak about attention to detail and possibly also some ADHD, which only came to light in the last couple of years and hasn’t been formally diagnosed).
DH is trying to force me to quit. He says I’ve completely changed due to the stress, that I have a short fuse at home (ie can’t take his bullying, coercion and rages like I used to and now scream back at him rather than just leaving the house until he calms down like I did before), and I need to “prioritise the family”, ie cook homemade meals, declutter the house and sit with teenage DD while she watches TV and does her homework (fortunately we have a cleaner).
I’m completely torn.
Do I quit after all the years of training, letting down all the friends, family and colleagues who helped with childcare, emotional support and extra tuition along the way?
Or do I stick it out, fuelling rages and daily harsh critisism from DH and feeling eternally guilty for not being the homemaker I perhaps should be, in both his and my own eyes.
Any thoughts?
I only go in to work on two days a week, so can do all the school/activity drop offs/pick ups and be home in the house with DD on the other days, but I have to spend all day and evening working on my laptop rather than doing housework/homemaking.
