Thanks for the advice Soutra I have put aside the voddy already (and may well suggest that she has some mulled wine at the ready)
I will be slugging away and may even be embarrassing the parents at the 'tea' party - which might teach DD not to invite me at the same time as a group of toddlers!
She does have a separate room in which the little ones will not be playing in so yes there is scope to 'escape' as you suggest but as my 48 hour Xmas invitation is primarily to see and play wth DGS (I live a long way from them and don't see them often, you may understand why I am miffed at having the time taken up by little ones he sees all the time)
Meanwhile DD no 2 is going to flip when I tell her (I can see her refusing to come with!)
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