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sheilaR Thu 20-Feb-14 17:18:14

Hi I am 66 years of age quite outgoing but I hardly know anyone that I am close to.
Over the years I have had lots of problems and as I have got older I am alot more easy going than I used to be I guess this is why my friendships disintigrated over the years
My son took his own life and I was wondering if there is anyone else local to Poulton - le-Fylde Lancashire with whom I could meet for chats etc
I love gardening and going around garden centres and I miss doing these things with someone else.
Also I was in care so if anyone has this in common with me that would be great.
With losing my son it has left me feeling a lack of confidence

sheila

Penstemmon Fri 21-Feb-14 20:45:53

hi Sheila am sure you will find some good friendship and conversation here on GN. Sorry for your very sad loss.

I often suggest looking up a WI group if you want to find some friends...
Here is your local group the Pearls of Poulton, they meet on the first Thursday of every month in St Chad's Primary School Hall at 7.30.

bikergran Fri 21-Feb-14 21:20:34

hi Sheila smile welcome smile

like other posts keep looking at the meet ups, I'm sure one will come your way soon and you can maybe meet other Gnetters,,(be carefull they will lead you astray) they may even force lots of wine wine down you!at our virtual parties, and make you eat lots of cupcake cupcake cupcake am sure seasider lives around the Morcambe area maybe she will pop in if she sees this thread! I occasionaly vist Fleetwood/Lytham(love Lytham) Blackpool etc during the better weather on my motorcycle.
hope you will keep popping in and posting.

Kaislin Tue 04-Mar-14 10:22:39

Hi Sheila. I also has a son who took is own life. I dont live near you but I really understand where you are coming from

Thistledoo Tue 04-Mar-14 14:40:15

Well Sheila you have certainly made quite a few new friends here on GN, you will find plenty to chat about and lots of support. Welcome welcome
welcome. Sorry so to hear about the tragic loss of your dear son. You must be a very brave and inspirational woman. This is a lovely place to find help and support for all sorts of problems. Please don't feel lonely ever again, just log on and pour out your heart, there will always be someone to listen. Hope you manage to arrange a meetup with GNs in your area. I am in Scotland, so too far away, but good luck. flowers

Mishap Tue 04-Mar-14 15:12:15

I am a very long ay from you, but hope that you an organise a local met-up - good luck with this.

trendygran Tue 04-Mar-14 20:56:16

Hello Sheila. How I wish I lived near enough to meet up with you. I lost my DH 5years and 2 months ago and consequently had to sell the family home and move into a retirement apartment. It is very pleasant, but I still often feel lonely,especially in the evenings and at weekends. My younger daughter took her own life sixteen months after her Dad died----Post Natal Depression badly dealt with in Wales. She left 2 small daughters who live 300 miles away from me. As you will know,only too well, that is the worst situation to come to terms with.
I do hope you'll find some friends locally . I volunteer and have joined the local National Trust and a U3A Group, all of which help and lead to outings, theatre visits etc sometimes. Nothing makes up for losing half my already very small family,but meeting with others is positive.
Keep posting on Gransnet. I find that sharing other people's thoughts , ideas and problems is quite therapeutic. Good luck!

Roderick Tue 04-Mar-14 21:03:22

Hello Sheila,Sorry to hear about your loss,I live in Loughborough which is a bit far away for a meeting but I send you my best wishes

Bellasnana Wed 05-Mar-14 04:11:21

SheilaR - your story and others on this thread are so sad and it brings to light just how many of us have feelings of loneliness. Even those of us with families still sometimes feel that ache. I hope you will find strength from gransnet. There are some very kind and empathetic people here who will hopefully lift your spirits when you are feeling low.
Sending warm thoughts and flowers

liminetta Thu 27-Mar-14 08:09:18

Dear Sheila. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. How awful to have to live with that knowledge.I live about 15 miles away.I retired at 64, and for 12 months, joined just about everything going.Always went on my own.My husband will not go out.I am now 67, and there is not enough hours in the day! It has taken a couple of years, but I now have formed a couple of close friendships with women friends.I used to post on Gransnet quite a bit; the company is always there for you, but I only post now, occasionally, usually early mornings, cant sleep, etc; and before the start of my busy day.Please keep returning to Gransnet; it is great for you,believe me.Good luck.smile

henetha Thu 27-Mar-14 08:34:31

To lose a son like that must be unbearable. All my sympathy goes out to you, Sheila.
Life can be difficult and lonely, can't it. Joining Gransnet is a good idea though as people are very friendly on here. I live in Devon, but I hope you find some friends who live nearer to you. There is a personal messaging service on here if you want to write to me. I had a difficult childhood too ,fostered, adopted etc., so we have that in common.
Wishing you all the very best and hoping life will gradually improve for you.