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To expect some sign of concern

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sunseeker Fri 21-Feb-14 15:18:30

Some weeks ago I discovered a very large pile of dog poo on my lawn, (definitely dog and not fox) so I asked my lovely brother in law if he would put a gate across the path to keep the dogs out. This morning he came and started putting in the posts, he brought is lovely little dog with him who loves to run up and down the drive and play in the garden. One of my neighbours was walking up the lane to take her 2 dogs for a walk across the fields (I think they were responsible for the pile of dog poo), when they saw my brother in law's dog (a scottie) they pounced on him, one of them picking him up in his mouth and shaking him, brother in law waded in and got the dog and held it out of their reach. My neighbour merely called her dogs (they are a bit bigger than a lab.) and continued on up the lane making no effort to put them on leads, apologise or enquire if the little dog was OK.

After we made sure he was alright I started to get really angry that she showed no concern for his welfare at all. AIBU to expect her to at least ask if he is OK? Brother in law not at all impressed. Should I tackle her about it next time I see her or wait until she says something? In fairness I would say that I have never seen her dogs react like this before, but it does worry me that they are not on leads as a young family live across the lane from me.

Stansgran Sun 23-Feb-14 11:17:52

Aaah the dog owner who carefully bagged his/her dog's poop and placed it in my empty recycling bin. A very deep wheely bin. That was fun. Such lovely people.

mollie65 Sun 23-Feb-14 11:36:14

papaoscar have to agree that we have gone from dogs being habitually on the lead to being 'free and offlead' because there is an assumption that being on a lead is 'cruel' - I know I have been accused of this when I have my lurcher on a lead because we are around livestock (particularly sheep) or in the vicinity of my neighbours' cats.
also training a dog to walk nicely on the lead as well as off it - requires persistence and effort and too many dog-owners are either too busy or lazy to train their dog to be under control.angry
it is not to do with whether a dog is rescue or not - it is the responsibility of the owner.
I do let my lurcher off-lead in empty fields, early in the morning or when we are not likely to see any other dogs (unless they are regular local dogs he knows) and I ALWAYS have the lead with me to hold him if we meet strangers with or without dogs.

Iam64 Sun 23-Feb-14 16:00:22

Another dog lover here, who shares the concern about what sees like an increasing dog population in the hands of people who know little about what dogs need. Stronger regulation of professional and hobby dog breeding seems necessary to me, along with a clear expectation that any puppy/rescue dog will attend training groups. I haven't yet worked out a master plan that would put this into practice though. grin

glammanana Sun 23-Feb-14 18:14:47

We have never let any of our dogs off the lead in any local parks or on the beach where we live they have all been trained to do their "business" in the same place as much as possible and I would be mortified if they left any unwanted mess anywhere we always have bags with us just in case and deposit it at home.
I would cetrainly have words with your neighbour sunseeker and let her know your feeling I would also warn your neighbour with the children just to be aware of the two dogs one can never be too careful.

Iam64 Mon 24-Feb-14 08:02:21

glamma- do your dogs get off lead exercise? I'm responsible with mine, but they are dogs that need a good run as well as on lead walks

sunseeker Mon 24-Feb-14 12:53:41

Brother in law turned up again this morning and his little dog seems none the worse for his experience (I did worry about him all weekend as he is not a young dog - 11). My neighbour was away at the weekend and I haven't seen her since, I don't want to fall out with her as I have a good relationship with all my neighbours, so not sure whether to mention it next time I see her of not.

Tegan Mon 24-Feb-14 15:50:20

You could just say in a pleasant sort of way that the little dog is ok when you next speak to her. It might give her a chance to apologise in some way without causing an arguement.

grannyisland Mon 24-Feb-14 19:05:45

I agree with LizG andTegan about saying pleasantly that the wee dog's ok . She couldn't take offence at that and it might let her know that she should have apologised at the time.
We have failed so far to teach our 9 month old pointer reliable recall - he is so strong willed, so he's off to 'boot camp' for 3 weeks in March to see if the expert will have more success. He really needs a good run off lead but he's off after game given any freedom!

Tegan Mon 24-Feb-14 19:39:02

Pointers are beautiful aren't they? I bet one look from him and you forgive everything! What colour is he?

grannyisland Tue 25-Feb-14 10:34:08

Yes Tegan he's very handsome, but VERY strong willed and very strong muscled. He's a black and white German short haired pointer - a show-off at obedience class but out in the real world it's a different matter!

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 15:24:51

I drive past one of those when I do the school run. From a distance they don't look very big but up close they're very big and powerful. I'm very taken with Viszlas these days but couldn't manage a big dog; also, with the weather being so awful recently I've been glad I have a dog that doesn't need much exercise.

Galen Tue 25-Feb-14 15:32:32

I'd love a dog, but couldn't exercise one. Are there any small ones that can exercise themselves in the garden? Or should I get a pet rock instead?

rosequartz Tue 25-Feb-14 15:48:51

We had a yorkie and he had tremendous energy and loved lots of walks.
You could get one of those that sits in your handbag like the celebrities have. However I think your idea of a pet rock is best, no feeding or vet's bills.

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 15:49:03

Get a whippet. If you could section off part of your garden she would run around in circles for a while a couple of times a day then come in and sleep. They even call them 'old mens dogs'; mine hasn't even had a walk today and she's still under her duvet [would be on the sofa if allowed and, even then she wouldn't move].

Galen Tue 25-Feb-14 16:06:35

Can anyone recommend any particular kind of rock. I only want a small one. I would give it a very good warm home.
It would live in luxury.

Galen Tue 25-Feb-14 16:07:58

Actually I'd love a whippet. I know you can get retired greyhounds, but can you get retired whippets?

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 16:22:12

There's a whippet rescue organisation. Honestly if you had one like mine she'd just sit and watch telly with you [they love the telly]. And they're incredibly clean; even when they whizz round the garden they don't get dirty and they never get wet cause they hate water. There was one advertised in the Co op when I went yesterday; 9 years old, has just lost her owner but needs a home without children or other pets [I did think of her being a companion for mine till I read the 'no other pets' bit].

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 16:33:37

..just checked out JR whippet rescue and got meself all upset; need to go and give Hattie a cuddle [she'll think I'm mad; either that ot I'm taking her to the vets...]

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 16:34:47

www.thelittledog.co.uk/little-dog-laughed/scruffy.../SM17.html
this probably won't work...

Tegan Tue 25-Feb-14 16:35:57

...look at Scruffy mutt cards section; 'park not vets'..

cathybee Tue 25-Feb-14 16:50:55

Some Dog owners are just very irresponsible. It relly annoys me and there should be more laws in place to scare unresonable dog owners into being better.

A Doctor friend of mine was chased in a Park by a dog and the owner just watched and did nothing!!

To confront this person would open up all sorts of negativity, if you are prepared for this and still wish to pursue all power to you. As you say there is a family living close by.

Iam64 Tue 25-Feb-14 18:31:29

Galen - retired grey hounds evidently make wonderful house pets. One long walk in the morning (you can get a dog walker if necessary) and then they lie about, happily. Whippets are lovely dogs, and I'd go with whippet rescue, rather than a humungous greyhound.

cathybee I'm interested that your approach to unreasonable dog owners is the "scare them" by introducing more laws. My experience is that scaring people rarely improves behaviour. I'm also not sure what kind of law would "scare" irresponsible dog owners. I do believe that more resources should be put into closing down puppy farms, more dog wardens in popular dog walking places and so on. The most important thing is to educate the public about the reality of dog ownership. Too many people fall in love with a fluffy puppy, and are then surprised when it becomes a dog.