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Hen Weekend crafting walking and boring

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GlamM Fri 09-Feb-18 10:18:12

I recently was invited to a hen weekend for a friend who is getting married this year. I agreed in principle then it became apparent that it was going to cost me personally upward of £300. I should point out that I will be attending the wedding which is also abroad and in peak season.

I was going to go, and then I found out that not only would I be paying £120 to travel there, we were all going to be doing crafting walking and macrame.....oh and sharing a room/ bathroom with 3 people I don't know .

I have decided not to go, I may be a Nana but I am not even 50 yet..neither is the Hen :-)

Does anyone else have a Hen Horror story.

harrigran Sat 10-Feb-18 09:20:34

That is my idea of hell on earth and forking out hundreds of pounds for the experience shock

Seizetheafternoon Sat 10-Feb-18 11:25:44

Horses for courses. I would love the crafting but sharing a room/bathroom with strangers - noooooooo. Fair enough to
Pass on that imo

Witzend Sat 10-Feb-18 11:58:05

I wouldn't go, either. Not my sort of thing at all, especially having to share a room!
Why have hen dos become so extravagant and expensive? And stag dos, come to that. So many people complain about being expected to shell out ££££, and often give up days of precious leave, too.

High time IMO there was a backlash, which will only come from more people not being afraid to say, sorry, but no.

GlamM Sat 10-Feb-18 15:18:55

ahhh nope, we are very distinct sets of friends, her being the intended of my friend, so it doesnt work that way!

eazybee Sat 10-Feb-18 16:08:22

I just like the idea of them crafting, making macrame, wearing pink sparkly wigs.

travelsafar Sat 10-Feb-18 16:17:32

What happened to a meal and a few drinks in your own home town like we use to do years ago.
Sometimes mum and future MIL came as well!!! lol.

Grammaretto Sat 10-Feb-18 17:05:28

I think you may not be the only one to cry off. My DD had 2 hen parties and I and her Ss-in-L , M-in-L, granny etc were all invited to the second one which was a civilised meal in a nice restaurant. Plenty of prosecco and giggles but no sharing rooms. I possibly paid for it but it was such fun I can't remember. Another time my DS was invited to be best man in Thailand on Christmas eve - at his own expense. He declined.

BBbevan Sat 10-Feb-18 17:18:17

We once went on a short cruise. There was a large party of girls obviously on a hen weekend. All dressed all the time as sailors. The bride wore a pink sash ,as well ,with her status emblazoned on it. So did her Mum. They were having a lovely inebriated time, and raised quite a few eyebrows with their loud behaviour.

grannysyb Sat 10-Feb-18 17:31:38

Went to my DDs, which was very civilised, meal in a nice restaurant with some of her closest friends, in a side room, never had one myself and wouldn't want to go on a crafting weekend! Spa possibly!

Willow500 Sat 10-Feb-18 18:49:55

The only hen do I've ever been on was horrendous - just the bride, matron of honour (who was a man) and the girlfriend of my son's friend. We all sat around wishing we were anywhere but there and got back to her house to find the stag do had been the same culminating in the groom passing out in his plate of curry - everything else about that wedding is best forgotten!

Nelliemoser Sat 10-Feb-18 19:14:03

I would not spend that much money on a hen night, it is unfair to all other would be guests.

My daughter and some friends went out for a spar session and a nice meal at sensible prices and just enjoyed it.

Purpledaffodil Sat 10-Feb-18 19:20:36

My hen do was afternoon tea at my friend’s house, kindly provided by her mother. It was giggly and fun even alcohol free!
DD went on one in Ibiza which was expensive but quite enjoyable. Only problem was the couple broke up and the wedding never happened.?
And in answer to OP, it sounds like you have had a lucky escape!

Mycatisahacker Wed 14-Feb-18 20:39:54

Ok I am 50 but what’s macrame? Thought that was a joke from the secret policeman’s other ball!

No just no

Willow500 Thu 15-Feb-18 14:03:37

Macrame is making things like plant pot hangers from string. Everyone had spider plants hanging from them back in the 80's grin

Catlady47 Thu 15-Feb-18 21:16:19

Sounds like fun to me

alchemilla Tue 20-Feb-18 13:36:52

Just say no? say you're looking forward to the actual wedding but can't make the hen but hope she has a wonderful time?

jamsidedown Tue 20-Feb-18 13:48:48

What a very strange mix of activities! At least it doesn’t sound like one of those where the bride to be and her mates stagger about under the influence wearing too little clothes and too much pink! Or maybe you will be macrameing (is that even a word?) the fishnet tights??