Seems to me the real issue is you and your husband are not "on the same page" on this one! You need to talk to him and reach a compromise that you can both cope with beforte then together deal with the taking advantage from your son/girlfriend together. At the moment your husband appears to not be considering any impact on you or your wishes, atall!
The Republic of Ireland and their tensions with migrants.
Arghh!! Moving house and conveyancing frustrations