I don't know if I am overreacting but my eldest daughter always puts me at the bottom of the list when it comes to visiting at Christmas. She'll always make sure she sees her Dad, and her partner's family - and even my mother gets priority and I'm supposed to accept the 'dregs' of what she has to offer. This year she can't see myself and my partner over the actual holiday and has said she'll visit my mum the following week - and I can go there. I wouldn't mind if it was the only time she has done this but it seems to have become a habit to dismiss my needs. If I bring this up with her she 'gaslights' me by telling me I am being over sensitive and that she has other priorities, etc. She got married a while back and her father paid for nothing (he can afford it) but took over the proceedings. I contributed a fair amount (probably a third of the cost) and hardly got a mention in the speeches or even on the day. I did eventually get a thank you card but very little was said on the day and although my daughter was polite, hardly made any effort to talk to me. I'm stuck as to what to do as I feel if I express how hurt I am she will just call me 'pathetic' - which is what has happened before. So I try to 'suck it up' and try and remember she has her own life and makes her own decisions. Should I just wait until she has her own children and realises how hurtful she is being or say something and risk a back-lash as whatever I do seems to be wrong. I am normally a very strong and independent person but this situation makes me feel very sad as I think and hope I have done everything I can for her, having struggled as a single parent to make sure both my children got a good life and followed their dreams. My other daughter is fine although is often swayed by her sister into thinking I am some kind of demon while their father is the best thing since sliced bread, even though he has done nothing for them unless it suits him.
Sorry to ramble, but I'm a bit overwhelmed as there's been nothing specific to incite this behaviour.
Has anyone else gone through similar and have any advice?
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