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Flowers for a coffin

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Grannyjacq1 Sat 19-Oct-19 14:59:27

I am helping my 95 year old father to organise my mother's funeral. He would rather the money go to the Marie Curie nurses rather than be spent on flowers, but wants to have something on the coffin -roses. Looking at the funeral director's catalogue, there is a simple spray of roses and carnations which is 65cm x 38cm (or could be larger if needed); there is also a 'coffin spray' which is 120cm x 45cm as the standard size. No prices displayed - but obviously the bigger the spray, the higher the cost. My question is: would the smallest spray look silly / mean on a coffin? Dad doesn't want an extravagant show - it's not his style - but also doesn't want to look as if he's being mean. I would welcome some advice, please, and the sooner the better as I need to sort something. Many thanks.

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M0nica Mon 11-Nov-19 21:27:31

Order your flowers from a local florist, not through the undertaker it will be cheaper.

In our familiy we just place a bouquet of flowers on the coffin, so that someone can take them home afterwards and put them in a vase. The last thing that anyone at a funeral is doing is costing the flowers and judging whether you are cheap skate or not, especially when you are otherwise asking for donations to charity in place of flowers.

Your father should do what he feels like doing and do not even think about what other people may think because it doesn't matter. A funeral is all about the recently bereaved.

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Luckygirl Mon 11-Nov-19 22:05:33

When my grandmother died we had a very tiny bunch of flowers that my DDs (then little children|) had picked from the garden.

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SueH49 Tue 12-Nov-19 04:33:57

I was at a funeral once and there were 3 lillies on top of the
coffin. It was so simple and personally I thought it was lovely.

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