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Are you wearing the right bra?

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Quizzer Fri 29-Jan-21 10:55:04

What is it about mature ladies and their bras? I was shocked to read in a recent post that many ladies were not wearing their bras during lockdown because they were uncomfortable. It is estimated that over half of British women wear the wrong size bra.
A couple of years ago I took my older SIL shopping to choose an outfit for her GD’s wedding The assistant in the shop was so helpful and eventually an outfit was chosen, but the assistant then tactfully suggested that my SIL should be measured for a bra to go with it. The bra she was wearing slung her boobs at waist level! She is not a well endowed lady so the weight should not be a problem.
My SIL declared that she had been this bra size for years, even though she had dropped two stone in weight. How many women don’t realise that their size changes throughout life, especially after the menopause. I gently persuaded my SIL to go to the lingerie department of a nearby M&S where they usually have a bra fitter. My SIL had been wearing a size 42B bra, but the fitter measured her as a 36D and brought in a few to try on. SIL was amazed how well they fitted and how comfortable they were!!
Once we get out of lockdown I would encourage anyone who is uncomfortable in their bra to get properly measured and buy one that IS comfortable.

jeanrobinson Fri 29-Jan-21 13:55:12

Alas I have costochondritis (inflammation of joints in ribs)
so wearing a bra is too painful. I gather stick-on bras do not work well, so what do I do? I would be grateful for suggestions.

Georgesgran Fri 29-Jan-21 14:02:53

Shinamae - back in my day, we called them Rawhide bras - head ‘em up and move ‘em out’
Really Gossard Wonderbra.

NotAGran55 Fri 29-Jan-21 14:07:39

jeanrobinson

Alas I have costochondritis (inflammation of joints in ribs)
so wearing a bra is too painful. I gather stick-on bras do not work well, so what do I do? I would be grateful for suggestions.

On Mumsnet they swear by a brand called Molke as being the most comfortable bras ever invented.
Not to my taste , but worth trying for comfort maybe ?

molke.co.uk/

PamelaJ1 Fri 29-Jan-21 14:10:46

Over shoulder Boulder holders. That what my sister calls hers.
Like Jane I’ve got some crop top type bras. Very comfy but I will still use my more structured ones when I want to look a little perkier!
jeanrobinson have you tried the crop top ones?

twinnytwin Fri 29-Jan-21 14:16:31

I seem to be allergic to the metal in bra fasteners - I have to put a handkerchief or tissue between them and my skin to prevent the itching. I've moved on to wearing Sainsburys crop top bras, but they don't really give any support/shape. I confess I'm not bothering anymore now only DH sees me. Luckily I'm not particularly well endowed to say the least.

ayse Fri 29-Jan-21 14:24:31

I’m not very well endowed at all but have a very broad back so generally go braless these days in the winter. Summer isn’t nearly as easy. I may try Sainsbury for cropped tops. My biggest problem is that I breast fed my children so my nipples are quite large and tend to stick out. I’ve considered making my own but finding the right fabric is very difficult. I’d also like to be able to buy 95% cotton and 5% Lycra. Sluggish fit that particular need but are too narrow at the back.

Calendargirl Fri 29-Jan-21 14:24:54

I know Rigby and Peller look after HM’s bra requirements, and also that they are very expensive, but what do they do in the measuring department that is so different to other institutions?

I understand ladies have been in the totally wrong size for years, so what is their measuring secret?

ayse Fri 29-Jan-21 14:25:02

SLOGGI’S not sluggish

Riverwalk Fri 29-Jan-21 14:30:14

Calendargirl

I know Rigby and Peller look after HM’s bra requirements, and also that they are very expensive, but what do they do in the measuring department that is so different to other institutions?

I understand ladies have been in the totally wrong size for years, so what is their measuring secret?

They no longer have a Royal warrant - something to do with the former owner spilling the beans!

Their secret is they employ very experienced woman who know their job - they just look at you, sans bra, and check your back with their hands, no tape measure in sight.

I haven't been for a number of years but will return.

biba70 Fri 29-Jan-21 14:32:57

Blossoming

I find underwired bras more comfortable. There’s no evidence they increase the risk of breast cancer.

www.breastcancer.org/risk/factors/no_evidence

I have given up wearing underwires- after one of my daughter's had a C scare and the specialist told her not to wear underwires as it was a big risk. As usual, even experts don't agree. She is VERY well endowed and finds it difficult to get comfortable bras that do the job, whereas I am a C/D and can do with little suport. Very happy not have have underwires anymore, I must say.

biba70 Fri 29-Jan-21 14:35:33

This part of the article is confusing- it states underwires do not cause (I'd rather say 'contribute) BC- but then goes on talking about wearing a bra or not wearing one, with no mention of the underwires???

''Underwire bras do not cause breast cancer. Only one scientific study has looked at the link between wearing a bra and breast cancer. There was no real difference in risk between women who wore a bra and women who didn't wear a bra.''

Kate54 Fri 29-Jan-21 14:51:17

Notagran55 I think you’ve made my day! Have checked out Molke and they seem to what I’ve been looking for. Mostly out of stock, so they must be good!

PaperMonster Fri 29-Jan-21 15:03:53

I feel really uncomfy without my bra. I was measured at two independent places, who both came up with the same size. Neither used tape measures but looked at me and my boobs to see what would be the best size and style. I now only buy one make and style, which is really comfy for me. M&S aren’t known for measuring properly, sadly. I know a lot of people swear by Boob and Bust on Facebook for measuring, but I’ve never investigated them as I’m very happy with my bras!

Jaxjacky Fri 29-Jan-21 15:04:27

I was at the breast clinic last week, diagnosed with breast nerve pain, advised to wear bras without wires. Having bought two, that were rubbish, like flimsy bits of material, I’ve removed the wires from my other ones, this works well, size 38D.

GrannyLaine Fri 29-Jan-21 15:07:46

My usual go to place was M&S but having lost a fair bit of weight recently, I wanted to buy some "interim" bras. I was a bit shocked when browsing the M&S website that the bras on the models didn't look a particularly good fit. Because shopping has been a bit limited this year I took myself off to Asda and after one or two false starts, found a non wired bra that fitted beautifully........... at £7! Bought it in 3 colours, happy in the knowledge that soon I shall need some smaller ones. I would always trust my own judgement about fit.

Nandalot Fri 29-Jan-21 15:09:21

After my pacemaker op in Oct. I had to go braless as the unit is just where the bra strap would go. However, being well endowed I found that I started to get breast pain. After much searching, I have found a company that does padded straps and which have the adjusting metal pieces at the back. Relief!

M0nica Fri 29-Jan-21 17:34:15

I have never really had a bra problem. I am quite a small size and not overweight and my size has varied little over the years.

The ones I will not wear as they look ridiculous are those great big moulded and padded bras that look like Boudicca's breastplates.

BlueSky Fri 29-Jan-21 17:58:47

Yes I doubt underwired bras actually cause breast cancer, but they are not recommended as apparently interfere with the lymphatic drainage? I used to wear them and found them necessary because of my size. Now I’m down to crop tops!

Shinamae Fri 29-Jan-21 21:16:14

Georgesgran

Shinamae - back in my day, we called them Rawhide bras - head ‘em up and move ‘em out’
Really Gossard Wonderbra.

????

Blossoming Fri 29-Jan-21 21:27:55

MOnica Boudicca's breastplates grin

NotAGran55 Fri 29-Jan-21 22:35:10

Kate54 I would be interested to hear your view if you buy one . The fans on Mumsnet are evangelical about the brand .

Kate54 Fri 29-Jan-21 22:49:11

I was unable to order as the plain ones are out of stock. Very good measuring instructions. I hate bras and have never really worn one (except when breastfeeding) but nowadays, it’s not a good look! I don’t like the fastening thing but these stretchy crop tops which a lot of people are mentioning are totally synthetic and my skin doesn’t like them! The Molke ones are stretchy but lined with cotton. They look more like bikini tops than bras. Will report back if I ever get one!

Scentia Fri 29-Jan-21 22:57:41

If I wear the size of bra a fitter says I am, my back cleavage is bigger than my front. They try to make me wear a 34E but I wear a 38C and it’s ok ?

NotSpaghetti Sat 30-Jan-21 00:26:35

ayse

Professional? measuring hasn’t worked for me at all. Apparently health professionals say that under wired bras are not good for breast health.

This is incorrect info. It came from the misreading of earlier studies and has been corrected.
Please read the earlier thread where it's discussed.

Chewbacca Sat 30-Jan-21 01:05:47

after one of my daughter's had a C scare and the specialist told her not to wear underwires as it was a big risk. As usual, even experts don't agree

Indeed they don't biba, and I'm very surprised that any specialist would claim that wearing underwired bras is "risky". The Breast Cancer Now organisation has specifically addressed that myth and dispelled it by saying: Do underwire bras cause breast cancer?
Underwire bras do not increase your risk of breast cancer.
There have been some concerns that the wires in the cup of underwire bras may restrict the flow of lymph fluid in the breast causing toxins to build up in the area. However, there’s no reliable evidence to support this.

Ladies, just wear what you're comfortable with.