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A Dilemma

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Daddima Wed 28-Aug-19 16:07:29

My dear friend died two years ago, and her family have organised a party for her husband’s big birthday. I’d like to send a personalised card, but all the pictures I have are mostly of the two of them. Part of me ( biggest part) says include pics of both of them, but then I worry it’ll upset him.

Anniebach Wed 28-Aug-19 16:10:10

I wouldn’t have wanted that after my husband died.

crystaltipps Wed 28-Aug-19 16:16:24

If you’re not sure how it will be received - don’t do it.

Tedber Wed 28-Aug-19 17:16:59

Daddima. I wouldn't send a card as you describe but you may like to look at chatbooks online as a present? This is a book that you can add personal photos to with captions. I think if you give it to him privately, he would be happy. He can look at it in his own time.

By the way am not advertising 'chatbooks' I was given one as a present and it is fabulous.

Luckygirl Wed 28-Aug-19 17:32:41

Just send an ordinary card.

fizzers Wed 28-Aug-19 18:54:09

I wouldn't do it, there's plenty of really decent cards available

Daisymae Wed 28-Aug-19 21:03:01

Yes, send an ordinary card.

Starlady Thu 29-Aug-19 05:26:42

"When in doubt, do without"... So I agree with the others - just send an ordinary card.

EllanVannin Thu 29-Aug-19 08:52:38

Card only.

annep1 Thu 29-Aug-19 08:59:36

I would just send normal card.

lemongrove Thu 29-Aug-19 09:34:46

Yes, a lovely ordinary card is for the best.

M0nica Thu 29-Aug-19 13:12:37

Why on earth wouldn't he want a card with a picture of him and his wife together?In the situation the OP describes I would be delighted that someone would remember that I am a remaining half.

He must be sick to death (oops, sorry) of people tiptoeing round him, not mentioning his wife, not referring to her death, as if she never existed. Someone who remembers him as he still always sees himself, as part of a couple, will probably lead to tears of joy.

luluaugust Thu 29-Aug-19 14:20:52

Only you know the gentleman I would send an ordinary card