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My sister has blocked me

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Bankhurst Sat 19-Jun-21 12:32:41

My sister and I have never got on particularly well. She is a wealthy Tory supporter, while I am less wealthy, to say the least, and on the left. For many years I have ignored deliberate jibes about the left, and also comments which she doesn’t see as political with which I cannot agree eg Black Lives Matter is a waste of time and their demonstrations just spread COVID. This led to a statements which I found frankly racist, but I didn’t engage with them. I try not to say anything vaguely political at all, but I don’t think she realises that how many statements she makes are arguable. In discussions re the government’s handling of COVID she tended to cut off the conversation with ‘I don’t know anything about that’. She also said of a friends 16 year old severely disabled son whose mother was told his lungs were too compromised to be able to withstand the virus ‘We’ve all got to die some time.’
Now she has blocked me after she got angry when I made a detrimental comment about Prince Philip immediately after his death.
Should I try to do something about this (a letter?) or accept that my, admittedly awkward, relationship with my sister is over?

Grandmafrench Sat 19-Jun-21 14:46:45

Not sure what/why you would want to do/deal with this?
Your very strained relationship seems to have been based on you keeping your mouth closed whilst a tone deaf, insensitive and bombastic person sounds off about any subject she chooses, with no respect for the feelings or opinions of others. Bet you'd never have tolerated this for years if this was a 'friend'. Family often believe they are untouchable!

I'd do absolutely nothing. If she reappears, you have a chance to lay down some new ground rules before she assumed that everything can be put right between you. If she doesn't - well there must be so many people you'd rather spend time with. Life may be too short to quarrel, but it's certainly too short to waste on those who don't value you and your feelings.

DanniRae Sat 19-Jun-21 15:44:00

The comment about your friend's 16 year old son would be enough for me to block her! What a bl**dy wicked thing to say!! angry

cornishpatsy Sat 19-Jun-21 16:29:09

Is she someone you would have as a friend? you do not have to have a relationship with someone just because you are blood-related to them.

Nezumi65 Mon 28-Jun-21 10:20:50

aonk

A detrimental comment about Prince Philip especially just after he died would be unforgivable to me.

A comment about a severely disabled 16 year old having to die sometime would be unforgivable to me.

Nezumi65 Mon 28-Jun-21 10:22:00

Honestly OP your sister sounds dreadful. I would enjoy the quiet. If she reappears on social media put her on limited profile. If she says offensive stuff just say you don't want to discuss.

Caleo Mon 28-Jun-21 10:31:30

You can still love her while accepting she is somewhat stupid.
May be best thing is to accept her like you accept a child who does not know any better. It is unlikely you will be able to educate your sister.
Can you tolerate her stupidity?

Sparkling Mon 28-Jun-21 17:53:17

I would just avoid politics. You hold very different views on things, but that’s not to say you don’t love her as a sister with your shared history. My sister and I are different and we agree to differ, we had years apart but I can honestly say despite our differences we love each other. I don’t know why your sister makes cruel comments, surely she doesn’t mean them, that’s nothing to do with different political views, it’s like saying all labour supporters are the kind ones and Conservative supporters the opposite which clearly is not the case.there is good and bad in every aspect of life. We can’t all think and be the same.