Friends dilemma...what would you do?

What would I do ….go to bed with a good book and a glass of wine and leave X Y and Z to live a good happy life
Sorry lost the will

How old is X ? This is pathetic school yard stuff !!!
However If you value her friendship, maybe message her in a few days and try to get to the bottom of it. Some people get offended by the slightest things .

Couldn’t get past all the WWYD, XY, XY, X.

Playground stuff indeed. Good advice BlueBelle. As they say, ‘doing my head in’.

X is being unreasonable, paying full pay and exceeding the usual sickness policy is going over and above. Also, in work you can't contact them too much if they're on sick leave so the boundaries between friendship and manager may have been blurred/confusing. X may have wanted more but you may have just been professional etc.

However she hasn't said directly to you. I don't see why you should lose friendship with Y, just explain X hasn't spoken to you directly but you don't want them to be in the middle etc

Y may be happy to see you both separately until the dust settles.

I think I was Y, I'd see both you and x separately and not want to get too involved

Oh dear - the thing is, if they want nothing more to do with you, just accept it and move on…….

Life’s too short.

My friend D has lost touch with H should I try to get them back together although that might make W jealous what do you think

Worn out after reading that. Where are all these long drawn out posts coming from and mostly new posters too!

Anonnypuss Take take Bluebells advice except take 2 bottles of wine and I’ll join you 🤣

If Y felt she could text and leave the decision in your hands she was putting you in an akward position. As host it was really for her to tell X that if she did not care to meet one of the other guests then that was her decison if she chose not to come. This is what I would have done as host. I would not be dropping it in the lap of the other party.

All these people sound very tiresome and maybe you should look for some new friends in 2024

Are some posters here having a bad day? People come on Gransnet for advice and they are getting some rude dismissive comments.
I know some threads are a bit converluted, but remarks about doing my head in are not nessasary and sound spiteful.

I sometimes feel that if the OP is a well-known name on Gransnet a post like this would receive a much more sympathetic and considered response, but when it’s a new name, this isn’t always the case.

There probably isn't an easy way out of this situation. Don't let it get you down. Workplace friendships are frequently difficult even when they had a firm foundation before working together.

Let the dust settle, and they can sort out their problem. Good luck

Arrange with Y to do things separately and forget about X...

Sorry people have been rude here, not all grans are wise, hope things get better

Sounds like a plan

Forget the texts and go talk to X. Two adults should be able to sort this one out.

I agree with VioletSky I would continue my friendship with Y and not make contact with X who sounds very rude and controlling

oh for goodness sake. who needs all that drama in their life.

What a fuss. Let them get on with it. Life’s too short and I don't know what half the abbreviations are. Doesn’t your partner find all this drama wearing.

I'd have 'phoned X and asked what what wrong. Then, I'd tell them all to sod off .

I agree with biglouis.
X had no right to tell Y not to invite you to her party.
Y should have told X not to come if she couldn't bear to see you.

I'd say don't message X yourself.
Y and the other couple need to make their own minds up what to do.

It's horrible when a longstanding friend turns against you, I've had it done to me.
Keep your self-respect x

BlueBelle

What would I do ….go to bed with a good book and a glass of wine and leave X Y and Z to live a good happy life
Sorry lost the will

Me too! 🤣😴