Hi all,
Hoping some of you can help with my dilemma.
My son’s girlfriend is a lovely girl and we have always got on very well. They live in England, but visit us often and she has always been very comfortable and at home in my home. I only have two close friends whom I exchange small quirky gifts with when we see something we know the other will appreciate and I love giving someone a gift that I know they will like. Because I have no female relatives, I feel I have tended to push the boat out in buying my son’s girlfriend Christmas and birthday presents, and I put quite a bit of thought into getting her things I know and hope she will like. I have also sent many parcels with house-y stuff over to them since they first moved in together and subsequently bought their first home. She has often perplexed me in the past when she has either been enthusiastic about thanking me, but other times has not acknowledged things I have sent, but I know she is busy, so I make allowances for that. I always check with my son to ensure if I’m sending bed linen or household items, whether she likes them or not first, so I know I’ll be sending her things she will enjoy.
The two of them came to us for Christmas and everything went well, although once again, she was a little strange about the presents she got and didn’t say thank you for anything, although I know she really liked what I had bought her, as she commented on them afterwards. I am aware after a few years, that she doesn’t splash out and seems to just give me a small token gift, which I am fine with, and her Christmas gift just past was no exception. It’s not a problem and I appreciate the thought.
My issue is that my birthday is at the beginning of January, and apart from telling me to have a nice birthday before she left last week, she did not acknowledge the day at all…no card, no gift, not even a message until late in the evening, which to me suggests she forgot. In previous years, such as last year, she had sent a card, or ordered a gift to be delivered to me, but this year nothing. Fool that I am, such a small gesture would have meant so much and my heart lifted each time we got a delivery, that it might have been something from her, but no. I don’t care about how much she spends…it’s the thought that counts as they say, and I have actually lost sleep and been in tears several times over the last few days as I am so upset. It also has ramifications for me going forward…do I stop buying her so many things, which will look incredibly obvious in contrast to what I have always done before, do I risk making things worse by mentioning it to my son? For me, it has spoiled everything, and I now feel resentful that I have opened my home, and my heart to being so fond of her, only to feel she doesn’t care about me. I am so hurt 😢
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