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Who is still attracted to their partner after a long marriage?

(74 Posts)
Keepgoing Wed 21-Feb-24 15:34:08

New to Gransnet. I don't feel like a 'gran' even though I am! I still feel 20, just in a 57 year old body ha ha. I have been married for over 30 years to a wonderful, kind man. He's never really blown my socks off but always been my rock. Sometimes I find myself wishing for that desire and not see him as a roomate. Do other women, who have been married for a long time, settle into this type of relationship or are some of you out there who still fancy their other half even after years and years of marriage and heading to their 60s or 70s, etc?

petra Wed 21-Feb-24 15:41:54

None of your business. 🤦🏼‍♀️

petra Wed 21-Feb-24 15:44:45

Doing a search shows there are no other posts by you 🤔

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 21-Feb-24 15:46:19

Strangely intrusive question for a new poster.

Greenfinch Wed 21-Feb-24 15:48:44

Why would you be interested?

crazyH Wed 21-Feb-24 16:00:21

I am divorced - regardless, it’s none of your business.

Sago Wed 21-Feb-24 16:27:44

Wow!

If that’s your first post heaven knows what you would ask once you got to know us all.

LucyAnna Wed 21-Feb-24 16:44:29

Sago

Wow!

If that’s your first post heaven knows what you would ask once you got to know us all.

grin

Doodle Wed 21-Feb-24 16:50:39

What are these people doing. Research, journalism, wind ups.
Sago well put. Even I’m beginning to spot these posters who suddenly want intimate details from GN.
I think my response will be MYOB .

JamesandJon33 Wed 21-Feb-24 17:15:43

Mind your own business

HeavenLeigh Wed 21-Feb-24 17:20:23

Strange first post MYOB

Delia22 Wed 21-Feb-24 17:34:59

Maybe those who have posted "myob" should just jog on if they don't like the question!? In other words,if you have nothing,kind,informative or interesting to say,then say nothing at all!!

fancythat Wed 21-Feb-24 17:42:50

I think the point is Delia, some people are not convinced it is a genuine post.
Some people have a knack in sussing out this kind of thing.

Personally, I may answer at some point, if poster does turn out to be genuine.

Delia22 Wed 21-Feb-24 17:52:40

fancythat; if the op is not genuine,then who is it?And what on earth do they gain from answers??

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 21-Feb-24 17:56:06

We have seen questions of this kind before. It’s very intrusive and you have to ask why a new poster asks such an intrusive question.

Marydoll Wed 21-Feb-24 18:03:31

There have been a few instrusive threads recently started by poster, who have never previously posted. Hence the suspicion.

Joseann Wed 21-Feb-24 18:04:32

'Ere we go again.
Delia22 regrettably there have been so many of these introductory threads lately where the OP swans in with a strange question and then disappears. That's why posters sort of alert others not to waste too much time.
I would say if you've been married to him for over 30 years,it's a bit late wanting to change him now!

Joseann Wed 21-Feb-24 18:05:10

Marydoll

There have been a few instrusive threads recently started by poster, who have never previously posted. Hence the suspicion.

Crossed thread.

Joseann Wed 21-Feb-24 18:05:45

Or crossed post even!

Delia22 Wed 21-Feb-24 18:06:48

Maybe I'm either too trusting or completely naive!😕

Gwyllt Wed 21-Feb-24 18:10:38

I wonder why people have to announce they are new to Gransnet

Smileless2012 Wed 21-Feb-24 18:11:07

Well regardless of whether or not this post/poster is genuine, my answer after 43.5 years of marriage is no.

Smileless2012 Wed 21-Feb-24 18:15:38

oh dear that hasn't come across as intended. No I haven't settled into our relationship and yes, I still fancy Mr. S.

Marydoll Wed 21-Feb-24 18:19:28

Smileless2012

oh dear that hasn't come across as intended. No I haven't settled into our relationship and yes, I still fancy Mr. S.

I was taken aback by your post! 🤣

Galaxy Wed 21-Feb-24 18:21:25

Smilelessgrin.
I hope he doesnt read GN!