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Devastated Brexit means family moving away to Canada

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trueblue22 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:18:49

My SIL's job is dependent on being in Europe; he deals in Euro bonds. He was originally from Canada and only stayed in London/UK because of his job and had married my daughter.

I am very close to my only 2 year old GS- am the only official babysitter- and my DD has only recently become pregnant again.

They now say they will have to move to Canada. Which is completely the right thing to do for them, but I'm so sad today that they will move to another country. My DH is retired and spends most of his time gardening and looking after our dog. He's not as close to our GS and I find him becoming more insular and crusty.

I know many families live far afield and all say one gets used to it. Do they really cope with these distanes and how can the GC continue to have a close relationship with GPs living so far and whom they see so infrequently?

Anniebach Fri 24-Jun-16 20:29:58

I am so sorry

hulahoop Fri 24-Jun-16 20:34:02

Oh true blue I'd be gutted too although my dh very involved with GC so he would of be too

Nonnie1 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:37:04

Me too..

You will have to keep in contact through the Internet. I am not any good at IT but there will be someone who can help you talk to each other through your 'puters.

Any chance you could move also or is that not an option?

NfkDumpling Fri 24-Jun-16 20:40:11

Do they really want to go to Canada? It's very early to be leaping to conclusions. It'll take at least two, and some say ten, years for us to negotiate leaving. It could well be that his job will still be here for some time to come. Dealing in Euro bonds isn't going to cease just because we're leaving the EU sometime in the future.

Jane10 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:44:52

How very sad. Is there any chance that you could go too?

Purpledaffodil Fri 24-Jun-16 20:48:15

Feel very sad for you trueblue. My brother and his family moved to Western Canada 25 years ago and we felt bereft. However over the years, we now have FaceTime, Skype and email to keep in touch more easily. Also there are several budget airlines flying there. Lovely holidays to look forward to for you in a fantastic country with very friendly people. I know this is not the same as having them close by as I also have a son and grandchild in Malaysia. But you do get used to things.
PS take my advice and leave Mr Grumpy at home when you visit. I do and have a break from him as well. Win, win!grin

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 24-Jun-16 20:50:24

Why will he have to move to Canada if his job is dependent on him being in Europe? Apologies for not understanding.

NfkDumpling Fri 24-Jun-16 21:21:15

I don't get it either Jingle. I assume it may be because he's Canadian - but that doesn't follow either.

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 24-Jun-16 21:28:28

Has Canada moved to Europe?

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 24-Jun-16 21:28:47

Have they joined?!

Ana Fri 24-Jun-16 21:35:44

You posted about the incipient move to Canada last December, trueblue22, so it was already on the cards.

Trying to blame it on Brexiters is a bit rich!

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 24-Jun-16 21:37:25

Ana you've got a fantastic memory! grin Who needs a search box?

Luckygirl Fri 24-Jun-16 21:37:52

Are euro binds to cease to exist?

Synonymous Fri 24-Jun-16 21:59:55

Goodness me, trueblue they are certainly jumping the gun as the dust hasn't even settled yet and it is far too soon to make any decisions like that. 'Sufficient unto the day' should be your mantra and before getting all upset you really need to just wait to see what pans out. hmm

When I think of how much more communication there is easily available nowadays and how much easier and less expensive travel is I really take my hat off to our forebears who emigrated round the world at a time when saying "Goodbye" was usually forever and they never met again. sad
It was expensive to even phone home in the 60s when I was newly married and visiting home was maybe once a year at best and that was within the UK. Effectively it was no different to living abroad. It would have been so much easier if I had been able to pick up the phone or text or skype and I would have kept in touch so much better. We all just got on with it, knowing there were so many others in the same boat.

Synonymous Fri 24-Jun-16 22:02:20

As you were then! I see that it was already decided and not a sudden shock decision. Rolls eyes! grin

trueblue22 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:00:25

I think with the second child coming, and the fact SIL works such long unsocial hours, means that he wants to change caree.

He is very close to his family in Canada, despite the distance- they are Russian emigres so the family are a tight unit.

My DH has mentioned moving to Canada, but I still have a son living in the UK. I'm sure I'll eventually recover my equilibrium. It's just knocked me emotionally and I'm dreading going to work tomorrow cos my eyes are all red & swollen sad

trueblue22 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:03:26

Yes, I stated a thread last year. The move was going to happen if there was a Brexit. I just couldn't believe it would happen i.e come out of EU shock

icanhandthemback Fri 24-Jun-16 23:11:46

My commiserations to you trueblue. Regardless of why they feel the need to move back to Canada, that must be very hard.

Cath9 Sat 25-Jun-16 09:58:28

It must be a very difficult time for you, especially as it is all to do with leaving the EU. But believe me, as I have a son who lives the other side in NZ. It was difficult for a while, but after a time and I expect many others will say the same, one gets used to having a child living far away, as long as they are happy, surely that is your main wish.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 25-Jun-16 10:01:20

Very sad for you. flowers But, quite honestly, a bit wrong to pin it on Brexit.

granjura Sat 25-Jun-16 10:26:39

Perhaps this was just the last straw in making the final decisions. DD1 works in the City- and all the financial firms are discussin moves to over parts of Europe, Frankfurt and Switzerland mainly- for vast numbers of their employees at all levels.

If car and other foreign manufacturers relocate too, as many they say they will, forced to do so by high tarifs on goods exported to the EU- then some white colour workers, management and a few key people onthe shop floor will be asked to come along or lose their job- and the rest will have no choice.

Manufacturers will not stay in a UK which frightens investors and has high tarifs imposed on exports- will they?

granjura Sat 25-Jun-16 14:30:58

Very selfishly, if DD1 and sil have to relocate to Switzerland or Germany- then at least for us it would be wonderful.

Blinko Sat 25-Jun-16 16:56:50

Trueblue, will you be able to visit them in Canada? We have friends there and I can recommend it.

Fairydoll2030 Sun 26-Jun-16 21:43:34

You made me laugh Granjura. I trust the remark .....*white colour workers* wasn't a Freudian slip? In the light of the pre/ post Brexit brawl regarding refugees and immigrants it might just seem a tad inappropriate!

No, No - just joking, honestly.......