Happynan, am sending you a hug. This is a very tricky situation and you've received some very wise advice which I can only concur with. Whilst only you know the importance of sharing the christening from a religious point of view, far more important, in my opinion, is the bond that you want to share with your grandson in the future. I have to say, from reading what you've told us, I think that there will be future issues with your son's partner if she is deliberately making things difficult already. Perhaps she's a very insecure person who has the need to emphasise her own importance in your son's life and she is manipulative enough to use this occasion to do so. Perhaps my interpretation is completely wrong - you know the girl, I don't. You may have to learn to live a life of compromise in order to enjoy a relationship with your son and grandson. I'm sure you're wise and sensitive enough to work out how you can best achieve this but my advice would be, don't get involved in your son's partner's competitive 'games'. She holds the trump card (your g/son, any future gc) and you will never win. Wishing you a happy outcome.
What do you think would go well with coasters like this?
Baby Reindeer - anyone watched it?