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Hijacking threads on gransnet

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em Fri 08-Jul-11 15:15:09

AIBU to feel that a few people are hijacking certain threads and using them as a soapbox, not just to express opinions (which is what we are all about) but to lecture and hector others ad nauseam and to the extent that we are losing well-respected and popular posters? 'Methinks the lady doth protest too much' and by so doing is alienating those of us who do agree with the basic premise but are turned off by the aggressive tone!

twizzle Fri 08-Jul-11 15:27:51

Yes, most definitely agree with you em

GeraldineGransnet (GNHQ) Fri 08-Jul-11 15:31:26

Please report posts that you feel are offensive or against the spirit of Gransnet. We don't promise we'll always do something about them, but we don't want people turning Gransnet into a soapbox either (it's boring). Sometimes if people want to talk about a particular thing that doesn't interest many others, it makes sense for them to have a specialist forum and speak to other, similarly-minded people.

There's nothing wrong with robust discussion, of course....

em Fri 08-Jul-11 15:45:42

Thanks Geraldine. There have been several attempts, by various gransnetters, to point out (reasonably if not gently) that some of us are finding the constant repetition of the philosophy and opinions of one individual is rather wearing. Can't say it's offensive and don't want to lodge 'official complaints'. But the same opinions appear in several threads and it has now reached the stage that a very popular lady, who frequently voices the opinions of her many 'friends' is on the point of giving up. I've suggested that the opinionated one might like to create a very specific forum to which like-minded contributors can gravitate, while the rest of us know to avoid it as we've heard it all before! Any more suggestions?

Annobel Fri 08-Jul-11 16:03:40

Couldn't agree more, em. I don't come here to be preached at. I can avoid the threads I think are going to give me earache but occasionally find infiltration on others.

em Fri 08-Jul-11 16:14:36

Before this becomes more serious than is absolutely necessary I'd like to point out that, mixed in with her very serious and worthy comments, the poster in question has also made some rather disparaging and 'knittist' comments! Along the lines of 'If you don't agree with me then go and join a thread about knitting' How very dismissive and patronising.

Annobel Fri 08-Jul-11 16:52:54

Em - chill! brew or wine wine

em Fri 08-Jul-11 16:56:10

Trying to work out how to clutch a glass of red while frantically knitting to exorcise the demons!!

carboncareful Fri 08-Jul-11 16:57:53

Oh dear! I'm really scared. I must be on the alert for flying knitting needles as I perch on my soapbox (metaphorically speaking - or perhaps not!). Actually I've been quite a knitter in my time - but I'm always very careful about what "threads" I use!

em Fri 08-Jul-11 17:01:14

Yes cc it's easy isn't it to become carried away with enthusiasm and end up thoroughly entangled. I'm referring in particular to Fair Isle knitting when threads have a tendency to get out of control!

pigsear Fri 08-Jul-11 17:07:59

em, you are a brave lady and I'm sure your friends appreciate you.

em Fri 08-Jul-11 17:12:39

Well thank you pigsear. Welcome to gransnet. Sometimes life is controversial and sometimes it's all peace, love and light. Find the thread where quiet friendly people gather in the shed and you'll see that there is a gentle side to gransnet (as you would expect).

em Fri 08-Jul-11 17:17:22

Sorry pigsear - it's notsogrand's quiet corner you need. La la la la.

GoldenGran Fri 08-Jul-11 17:26:14

Pigsear, Em is right, nothing horrid EVER happens in the shed, and you can partake of some goodwine or even a refreshing brew. grin

jangly Fri 08-Jul-11 17:45:09

"a very popular lady, who frequently voices the opinions of her many 'friends' is on the point of giving up". How do you know that em? Private messaging? I knew it! Gransnet going down the clique-y route already.

There have been perfectly reasonable debates on here. No-one has overstepped the mark.

Live and let live.

Post or don't post.

HildaW Fri 08-Jul-11 17:52:25

am confused as this a moan about just one person or a general moan about something that I'm not sure about...surely making a post about something you feel strongly about is what Gransnet is about?

jangly Fri 08-Jul-11 18:00:44

Hilda, I think its because carboncareful started a thread and then debated too vigorously (???) on it. So someone has left. I think that's Baggy.

But I'm probably wrong.

HildaW Fri 08-Jul-11 18:09:29

lol Jangly.........aha.............politics politics........have never quite understood the ins and out of 'office' politics.......its all too subtle for me....thanks anyway for trying. Me, I calls a spade a garden implement!

twizzle Fri 08-Jul-11 18:33:42

baggythecrust! had posted in 'the quiet corner' that she was leaving, and gave her reasons for doing so.

Her message has since been withdrawn by Gransnet.

HildaW Fri 08-Jul-11 18:34:39

I will be sorry to see Baggy go.

GoldenGran Fri 08-Jul-11 18:39:20

Thanks Twizzle, I never saw that and am really sorry she has gone. If you are still reading the post Baggy, come back, we'll miss you. sad

pompa Fri 08-Jul-11 18:44:30

Baggy, we love you, come back, I know you can see these messages, I didn't see your reason for leaving -hope you were not "Doing a modesty" or going "Pompa" LOL

JessM Fri 08-Jul-11 18:45:55

Oh me too. She and I had some agreements in some areas and some disagreements (about the environment as it happens). I think it is healthy if we can agree on some threads and disagree on others. Would be a very boring forum if we all agreed about everything, wouldn't it.
But I need to go elsewhere, where I am busy disagreeing with the voices of what I consider dangerous battyness, such as we don't have on gransnet thankfully, and check todays posts...

GoldenGran Fri 08-Jul-11 18:49:25

I agree with JessM and Pompa. Pompa hope the wedding goes

GeraldineGransnet (GNHQ) Fri 08-Jul-11 23:10:10

Just for the avoidance of doubt, baggy asked for her post to be deleted and we agreed to do this because she'd inadvertently included her email address. We wouldn't delete posts other than in extraordinary circumstances of this kind.

We agree with jangly and JessM - there's nothing wrong with robust debate, and if it gets too robust, you can leave that area of the forums and have a nice time in a quiet corner for a bit. We hope to cater for all tastes...