Cut out of their lives

Never give up nanban. Something may just trigger that thought in their minds that you should be involved, and it could just as easily be something your grandaughter says. They see other grandmothers at school or in other children's houses and do ask those curious questions. They will not readily accept being fobbed off as they get older.

I was just a bit overwhelmed this morning with everyone round about going on about their Easter with grandchildren. And one and all complained about one thing or another. Ah well. x

Nanban and [hug]

Nanban, I do feel for you - your dolls house post brought tears to my eyes, and I'm not usually an emotional person. As regards what you said about the complaints, yes, I've been guilty of that and in future I'll try a lot harder not to take the good relationship I have with my DD and GC for granted.

Being able to just say 'stuff' is a huge help in getting through the days. I long for the day when I find myself complaining about the grandchildren. Meanwhile a word of warning to one and all - dolls house making is not for the faint-hearted! It is driving me completely crazy - or should I say, crazier.

Thank you dear ladies, you are a lovely bunch.

PS: take no notice of me, take each other for granted, there can't be anything more lovely.

I have sat all night (after what has been the worst weekend of my life) reading all the posts on this thread with tears streaming down my face. I cannot really discuss my situation at the moment as not in a fit state but needless to say this thread is very close to home. Don't know what to do or where to turn.

gilly sending you a big {{{hug}}} you sound like you could do with one. We are all here when you need a shoulder

gilly please come and talk, or pm someone who you think can be supportive privately. We can imagine what you're going through - sometimes things happen that blow up in our faces and unimaginable consequences are imposed on us that are so hard to bear. I hope things will resolve for you, and we are around for you (((hugs)))

Gilly.Huge hug from me.

gilly I echo Carol's sentiments. (((hugs)))

Gillybob, I found it a great relief to be able to tell my story to people who didn't know my daughter. I got good advice which I have followed, and whilst I still have no news of her and her children, I have learned to accept the situation and get on with my life.

This site has been a life-saver for me during the last year of denied contact with my GS.Nothing much has changed or resolved but I feel I have connected with a group of lovely,loving,supportive friends.Some have also been there.
I can rant when in despair but also had some laughs and good advice on many subjects.
Like GreatnanI'm learning to accept the situation. It's hard.

Me too, Maniac. When my ex-DIL was provoking me into thinking about murdering her, this thread was an outlet for all my frustrations. You lovely Gransnetters can tune into one of us feeling down and there you are with hugs and support. I still harbour fantasies of murder, but don't feel as inclined to carry them out now!!

gilly Since becoming a Gransnetter, I've shared all manner of personal experiences with people who are compassionate, funny, kind, knowledgeable and ready to listen. It's impossible to feel alone with a problem. It's good to talk. (hug)

gilly Sending you special ((hugs)) and please when you feel able talk to someone or PM and you will find someone to share your heartache with.

gilly what can I say that yhe others haven't? We are all here for you and it CAN help to talk!

Gilly My daughter has just cut herself off from me and my son, just as my dad is dying.
We have always been close, and to sit in dads bedroom on each side of his bed and for her to not look at me or speak, has broken my heart.
I never ever thought it could happen to me.

Whatever is happening to you, you have deepest sympathy from me.

nanachrissy ((hugs))

nanac - I am so sorry to hear about this sad time for you, and at such a time with your Dad, too. I do hope you will both be able to overcome whatever it is that has caused such a rift. Take care. xx

gillybob - As others have said, it's good to talk. It does help. Take care. x

Gilly Nanachrissy Granban Carol and all the other troubled Grans. I can't begin to understand or comprehend what you are all going through but send (((hugs))) and

Nanachrissy I hope this recent upset is just a storm in a teacup and fizzles out quickly before it becomes something difficult to resolve. You're having a tough time already. Only a few family upsets turn into a long separation, so fingers crossed for you

Gally thank you - my horrible time being separated from my grandson is happily over now and I know I will see him regularly because my son has direct contact with him and he ensures we are together. He has been to see his daddy's new house now and is thrilled to bits about it, especially when he noticed the catflap in the kitchen door! The pressure is on....!!