Cut out of their lives

nanban, there's hope there at last! Fingers crossed for you, and lots of warm wishes.

nanban I hope something good comes from trying this address.

nanban you deserve a medal for keeping on trying. I hope this time you'll have some success.

I can never say too many times - you are a lovely lot and thank you for listening

Nanban and you are also a lovely lady. Wish with all my heart that we could make your dearest dream come true. You deserve so much more...

Nanban good to hear from you again.I think of you often.
I do hope your latest efforts are successful.You certainly started something with your poem.

I have had a reply to my letter which my MP had forwarded to Tim Loughton Under Secretary of State for Children and Families, its a long letter which I will get DD to scan for me then I can cut and paste it for you all to see.

Hello back Maniac - lovely to hear from you - we are holding our breath hoping that our parcel doesn't come back. We have sent others but this time we put our return address on the outside so that if he isn't there, somebody will return it to us and we'll know.

Thank you Glassortwo for your efforts and it will be great to read your letter!

I understand how you feel my daughter has cut us off from our two grand-daughters. When we speak of it people think I have said or done something to hurt them, but I have done nothing except show love to them never getting involved in their private lives or their care of the girls but still people ask if I have shown favouritism. With my hand on my heart I can say no but we do not know what goes on in another persons mind if they do not wish to share with us or try to meet us a small amount of the way to reconciliation there is little we can do but be there.

Welcome Mugnanny - I once stood on the outside-looking-in on a friend who was going through just what we are and, although I knew her so well and thought her lovely and nice and funny, I also assumed there must be another side that we didn't see to make her son behave so badly. Of course now I'm on the other side looking out, how wrong I was. I am so sorry for your troubles Mugnanny and I know how hard it is to constantly have to look at what you have said and done to justify your innocence even to yourself, hardest of all. How wonderful when the day comes that your daughter turns around - it will, it must, happen one day.

For all of you who sent such lovely messages lately, we have not had any response to our parcels. We know our grand-daughter is coming up for her first birthday soon and will try again. Our youngest has gone away to celebrate his birthday because of the awful sadness of missing his brother. I am so sorry for being such a misery.

Oh Nanban please don't apologise for your sadness. We are here for you and that is what friends do, we listen to your problems and try to help to lift you a little.

Nanban I echo Ella's thoughtful message.

Nanban....one day you WILL look back on this terrible time because all will be well. In the meantime, we're here and we understand. xx

Managed another contact with two of my son's children aged 4 and 2. We had a birthday picnic in the park on a lovely afternoon What made it all worth while was the 4 year saying " I love you nanny". Which just goes to show how important maintaining contact is because sometimes it gets overlooked that actually we are as important to them as they are to us.

SJP how lovely your heart must have been ready to burst.

SJP - that's wonderful! xx

SJP

SJP that's so great to hear. I'm so pleased for you

SJP ...and those words really did come straight from the heart.

SJP - what a wonderful moment. I am so pleased for you.

SJP, that's fantastic. Nanban (((hugs)))

Thanks for all your good wishes seeing my son's 1 year son later on this month as well. (its complicated as all the children are not together). Lesson for all grannies - get social services on your side, press for maintaining contact, in all things be reasonable especially with those looking after the children and those who have power to to make decisions about the children, be prepared to compromise some contact is better than no contact, always have a plan B. Its early days yet and if the children eventually go back to the parents I expect a really difficult time ahead where contact is concerned (but that is where plan B comes in)

I'm off on holiday today but have emailed my daughter trying to explain a few things; asked for no reply today as I want to enjoy my holiday and a negative comment would destroy me. Could I please have a granset 'fingers crossed' moment for me wishing that it all goes well; I'm a great believer if 'grannypower'! . Speak when I get back. Love you all.....

Have a lovely holiday Crimson , don"t fret yourself , I will send an angel to be with you .

Great big good luck (((vibes))) heading to you crimson. Time to make peace