I think the message from this thread has been that there isn't a regimented ideal. What works well for people is good. What doesn't work is not good. "Rules" that so-called higher powers (ha!) try to impose on people can be disregarded nowadays. Thank goodness for that. On another thread some of us argued that being "married" is not about having a marriage certificate; it's about a commitment to bring up kids together. Plenty of people get "married" in the official sense and then split up and plenty of people bring up their kids in a perfectly satisfactory manner without ever having had a "marriage" certificate. Logical conclusion: we don't need rules imposed by "higher powers". We can manage without.
I've nothing against "official" marriage. I'm married myself. But I've nothing against unofficial marriage either. And young girls/women who find themselves alone and in a fix should be helped because that's the good and civilised thing to do in a good and civilised society.
The King is to resume some duties.
The majority of Israeli Jews do not want to occupy Gaza.
Recommendations please, for a stopover on the way to Loch Tay