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Not forwarding those sentimental and inspirational emails

(31 Posts)
Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 16:03:31

I feel an ungrateful heel when I fail to "forward this to six other people within the next half-hour" or whatever.

I have a dear friend who forwards me a lot of those pyramid-type messages that circulate round the internet. I know she sends me them so that I know that she is thinking of me and sending her love when things are difficult, but I really cannot bring myself to forward them to everyone - or even to a small selection of my address book.

It dates back to school days, when chain letters would go around, often ending in something like "If you send this to six other people something wonderful will happen to you within a week. If not, the sky will fall in ....." and some girls got really upset because they could not find six friends who had not already received one. To me, they are emotional blackmail.

And then there are those pseudo-medical ones, which tell you on no account to eat or drink this or that or you will drop down dead instantly.

Am I the only party pooper?

grandmaagain Mon 24-Oct-11 16:08:45

no you are not, I never forward them either, although sometimes they remind me to contact the friend and have a chat or visit, so they can have a positive result.

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 16:12:55

Glad I am not the only one.

nanachrissy Mon 24-Oct-11 16:20:41

The only things that I forward are really rude funny jokes! grin

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 16:32:05

Same her, nanachrissy

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 16:45:26

Meant to say same here

numberplease Mon 24-Oct-11 16:46:10

My daughter sends me several of these a week, most I delete, the odd one I`ll forward to maybe one or two people, not a whole string of folk.

Annobel Mon 24-Oct-11 16:52:25

I delete immediately those chain-type emails. If I get one that makes me laugh, I send it on to the friends and relatives who share my sense of humour. grin

shysal Mon 24-Oct-11 16:56:59

I never forward these, as they are too much like the old type of chain letter. Last week my daughter sent me one saying that I would receive money within 4 days just as a Premium Bond cheque came through the door!

absentgrana Mon 24-Oct-11 16:57:27

If there's something funny or pertinent, I'll forward it to my daughter and vice versa. Otherwise, I delete. Threatening chain letters/e-mails are horrid and should never be forwarded.

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 17:04:17

If something is obviously rubbish, I find an explanation in Quackwatch or Urban Myths and send back a reference. I don't know how much my debunking is appreciated, but I feel I have made a tiny contribution to stemming the tide of misinformation.

Once something gets into the email circuit, it can go on for ever, gathering believers like a giant snowball. Some have become legend, like the one supposedly about a boy with cancer who wants to collect as many get well cards as possible. He has now been recovered for years, but the postman still staggers up to his door with sacks full.

Jacey Mon 24-Oct-11 17:12:19

I pick and choose ...only sending something on if it will resonate with that individual. Personally ...they often make me smile ...and I never send on any to a fixed number of people.

Elegran what's 'Quackwatch'? confused

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 17:32:03

Quackwatch is a site which looks at all the dodgy stuff that circulates on the net, mostly about health issues. They dig up the truth and publish it. It is very interesting. They get some extremely angry reactions from snake-oil sellers! Google it and have a look.

Annobel Mon 24-Oct-11 17:44:47

I've often had earnest-sounding emails warning me about viruses that they claim will wreck my computer. I always Google these so-called viruses and invariably the emails are hoaxes, some of which have been circulating for years. Then I 'reply all' to the recipients of the email. Thanks for the information about Quackwatch, Elegran.

Elegran Mon 24-Oct-11 17:47:22

My pleasure, Annobel The more of us who know where to look for sensible comment on these hysterical emails, the more likely they are to die out - though it could take a long time.

jogginggirl Mon 24-Oct-11 21:04:19

I have a friend who sends these quite regularly - a recent one contained a virus and she had to warn everyone on her list...........fortunately, I am an Apple user and so did not get the virus. I do feel guilty about not passing them on but now I just bin them as soon as I get them hmm

Jacey Mon 24-Oct-11 21:39:04

Thanx Elegran

Joan Mon 24-Oct-11 23:15:31

I'm another one who always 'breaks the chain' and just deletes them. The quasi religious sentimental ones really get on my wires, and the ones with threats of cosmic catastrophe just make me laugh.

Thanks for the quackwatch site!

harrigran Mon 24-Oct-11 23:50:20

I always get rid of these stupid emails, why would I sit and send them to six other people ? It is amazing how many come from work addresses too, it is not what you go to work for.

Faye Tue 25-Oct-11 00:43:14

I too find them irritating and I don't care if the sky falls down on me in six days time if I don't pass them on. hmm

Elegran Tue 25-Oct-11 09:47:19

Gransnetters are not gullible enough to clog up the net with this junk.

Granny23 Tue 25-Oct-11 10:42:18

I have a 'friend' who sends reams of these things. Unfortunately she does not know how to delete the preamble or endy bits, so every one is topped and tailed with a long list of who sent it to whom and which virus checkers have been used + disclaimers from the many companies, councils or the NHS whose employees have sent it on during 'working' hours. I told her how to delete this stuff before forwarding but she cannot manage that. She told me that she just resends to everyone in her contact list, which includes her church, garage, Doctor's surgery, even the Undertaker.

My new computer can cope but my old one used to seize up trying to download or delete these lengthy files.

Elegran Tue 25-Oct-11 10:48:29

granny23 And now you have available to you all the email addresses of the other people the message has gone through, and the CarbonCopy addresses they also sent it to. If you were a spammer, you'd be delighted!

Is she aware that her email address is being distributed around the globe like this? If you pointed that out, she might learn how to delete all the repetitious stuff.

goldengirl Tue 25-Oct-11 14:28:08

I too always break the chain. The possibility of a virus is a great deterent to passing them on.

Jeany Tue 25-Oct-11 16:14:28

A good friend frequently sends me these, often very loving with a message about women being sisterly together etc., but I never send them on. For some reason they annoy me. They are so manipulative. I think my friend must know because usually I am asked to include her in my list of recipients.