Oh Wendy H I know exactly what you mean, it has been goingon since Feb 2009 nearly 4 years.
How she could have another babe and not tell us broke my heart, especially all the support i gave her trying for first one she had polycystic ovaries, and to fall again and not even tell us!!! We heard from an old school friend of hers who no longer sees her, even she is disgusted by her.
We do blame her husband a lot, he had an harassment warning issued to us in the first year, and we are in process of trying to get if lifted with our mp helping us.
I too cannot find any excuse or reason for what she has done, and thank you for kind words, I am very fortunate in that I have coped without any medication just herbal quiet life now and again, my doctor offered me anti depressants at first, but my counsellor who I had for year 2 years ago now said I did not need them, and it would not help, he was right.
Sometimes I feel I CANNOT BEAR IT expect you been there, but we have each other my husband is fantastic, and we have a lovely son too, and great friends, so life goes on.
I totally agree the support form people on these forums can really lift your spirits, please do keep in touch yes we must support each other and keep smiling!!! x