advice please a.s.a.p :) who should walk daughter down isle if her dad not able to!??

My grandad gave me away in the 70s. He did a perfect job. My father would not go in a church on principle. I was not impressed. I don't have any faith, but my husband did, so I did it for him. As my father wouldn't make the effort for me, I didn't pursue it. His loss! He tried not going in a church when he married my mum, then said he wouldn't participate. The vicar said 'fine - there will be no wedding.' He participated!

when son and daughter in law got married, both us mums where their witnesses, its lovely to break the tradition and let the ladies lead the way .

The Bride, if she has definite preferences should choose, if she is uncertain or not too bothered, and if you ask him how he feels about it, her Grandad should be the first choice I'd have thought as her brother would be of great value in the usher department.

A lot of mum's do it nowadays in the absence of fathers. The bride's brother would be an obvious choice as an alternative as would her grandfather. Not used to all these abbreviations yet so hope i have got it right!!!