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AIBU to hate New Year

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Mamie Mon 31-Dec-12 07:52:37

I like Christmas, but I absolutely loathe the New Year "celebrations". I hate all the boring, retrospective TV and newspaper stuff, I can't abide concerts from Vienna and the TV programmes are just awful. We never stay up to see the new year in (not even in 2000), but at least here in rural Normandy we don't get woken up by other people's ghastly fireworks. I shall be so glad when it is the 2nd January.
Grumpy emoticon.

grrrranny Mon 31-Dec-12 13:30:00

well said crimson. I was trying to think how to reply to gracesmum because I really understand what she wrote as this great sadness overcomes me at times as well. I think there is a long german word for this sadness but I can't remember it. The driving rain and grey skies today don't make for cheerful spirits either. Sometimes we just have to plod, one foot in front of the other, until things ease and, although we may not skip along, at least we're not trying to pull the wellies out of the mud with each step. Eh confused I don't know where that came from - only hope it makes some kind of sense. flowers for gracesmum

crimson Mon 31-Dec-12 13:35:55

Oh the Germans have wonderful words for all sorts of things [as do the Japanese I believe]. Ther's something nice about being able to encapsulate a complicated emotion in a word [shadenfreude;zeitgeist/betrachtungen].

soop Mon 31-Dec-12 13:37:15

grrrranny Yep! Pulling 'wellies out of the mud', is an apt description. smile

Nonu Mon 31-Dec-12 13:40:23

I am quite ambivilent about New years eve .

Tonight we are going over to some friends for a nice dinner , will stay over then have the day with them and some others who are coming over so we will have a good time and much laughter .

Went to Marks and Spencer sale this morning and bought a stunning new dress , half normal price .

Good wishes to all !!


glammanana Mon 31-Dec-12 13:45:02

We will eat about 7ish and sit and chat for a while maybe remembering things which have happened through the year and hopefully laughing at what happened.
Fire works will go off across the River Mersey and we will have pride of place to view them along with the sound of the Ships in the dock and on the River the noise goes on for maybe half an hour at the most,then maybe just the odd fire work during the night from revellers who can't tell the time ??
We have never really celebrated NYs eve we have always put our energies into the Christmas festivities instead.Best Wishes to everyone anyway and hoping you all remain in good health which is the most important thing of

janeainsworth Mon 31-Dec-12 13:46:47

gracesmum I think it's quite normal even for those who are basically happy, to feel overwhelmed with sorrow sometimes and perhaps acknowledging those feelings is the first step in coping with the sadness of life alongside the joys.
I try not to think of New Year too much, because as I've got older I can't help wondering what awful things the New Year is going to bring, rather than thinking about the good things that I can look forward to.
2012 brought the sudden and unexpected death of the husband of a good friend , and the suicide of a young man we had known since the day he was born a few weeks before DS.
The pluses were the seeing my children successfully overcome some difficulties and of course being with my lovely DGCs.
So I hope for you and all of us that whatever happens in 2013 we can still maintain our friendships and cope with whatever life throws at us with calm and equanimity flowers

grrrranny Mon 31-Dec-12 13:48:48

Weltschmerz? Anyone know? It's not that long for a German word really.

grrrranny Mon 31-Dec-12 13:51:53

janeainsworth very well put.

crimson Mon 31-Dec-12 14:02:24

Why did I hate German so much at school when it's such a wonderful language? [I know; it was the grammar blush]. Need to add that one to the list [how sad a creature am I?] on the wall next to the pooter. I wonder what's the smallest wonderful German word there is that means something infinite?

gracesmum Mon 31-Dec-12 14:04:51

das All (means space and that's infinite.......)

crimson Mon 31-Dec-12 14:09:48

Like 'the all'? Wonderful. I feel the desire to try to learn the language coming over me.

Ella46 Mon 31-Dec-12 14:13:06

Is it an age thing to feel such sadness do you think?
I don't think I have been so full of despair for a long time, my son's impending loss of sight is ever present for us both, my dad's death and daughter's troubles didn't help, and ds and dd being estranged is ongoing. sad

However, if this is rock bottom, I can only look upwards, and I shall endeavour to do so with the ever cheerful and supportive, wonderful friends on here sunshine

Marelli Mon 31-Dec-12 14:14:41

nanado, it's so, so hard. And the time of year seems to make it all the worse. New days will dawn, though, and the sun will shine again regardless of what is being suffered. I'm sending you a warm arm around your shoulder. flowers xx

crimson Mon 31-Dec-12 14:24:44

This awful, awful weather can't be helping any of us. I just don't want to go outside.

kittylester Mon 31-Dec-12 14:29:32

I suppose, as we get older, we have experience more things to make us sad and it does no harm to dwell for a while.

We have had some awful things happen in the fairly recent past and in the last year we have lost 3 friends and three more are suffering from serious illness. We count our blessings that we are still healthy but then worry about how long that will last. I am an optimist and always expect good things but, occasionally, dreadful thoughts overwhelm.

My heart goes out to everyone on here (or any where else, for that matter) who is sad, lonely, worried or in pain.

And thank you to all gransnetters for being so supportive to whoever, whenever. flowers

Faye Mon 31-Dec-12 14:30:35

Nanado New Year being a day of celebration does make your sorrow a constant reminder. I can only hope for you that one day your blow will soften. Many hugs. flowers flowers

Marelli Mon 31-Dec-12 14:31:08

As I look out of my living room window, the sun is shining brightly on the large oak tree at the bottom of the garden....and on it (I've just counted) are 24 ring-collared doves - all facing into the wind! They gather here on and off during the day. smile

glassortwo Mon 31-Dec-12 14:39:17

grace I hate New Years Eve, and I think my down in the dumps day yesterday was tied up in similar reasons to those you have noted and I still feel on the verge of tears which threaten to spill. We wont be doing anything tonight, I am now going to make a big pan of pasta sauce and we will have that later and if we manage it might just see in the New Year.

Barrow Mon 31-Dec-12 14:45:06

Had a text from my brother in South Australia about 3/4 of an hour ago wishing me a Happy New Year so its already 2013 there!

nightowl Mon 31-Dec-12 14:47:54

I thought it was just me feeling so low and sad. I don't usually feel like this at this time of year and have much to be thankful for. (((Hugs))) to you and yours Nanado and sending warm thoughts at this very poignant time.

And (((hugs))) to you too Ella and all others struggling through difficult times.

Butty Mon 31-Dec-12 14:52:19

nanado x

Sue162 Mon 31-Dec-12 14:52:32

I have never enjoyed New Year's Eve but for some reason I do like January 1st. When our children were young, I used to slip downstairs early and sit with my new diary and feel a great sense of peace. Despite our DC and beautiful GS and GD, I no longer get much pleasure from Christmas celebrations but I think the start of the New Year is a cause for hope and, most important of all - spring is on its way!! Yay!!! smile smile

gracesmum Mon 31-Dec-12 15:00:42

You are right Sue162 our grandchildren are our cause for hope and our step into the future, but as kitty says, our experience of life has perhaps given us grounds for sadness and the awareness that s**t happens.
When we see their happy little faces - and I am acutely aware that for many of you, that would be a dream come true - it is hard to remain down for long. Get a grip, GM smile

Nanado Mon 31-Dec-12 15:05:31

* graceemum* and others I understand completely. Thank you everyone for your flowers and hugs. It is exactly four years ago since we laid little Tommy to rest in a beautiful setting. The hardest thing I ever did was write and deliver his eulogy. You'd be amazed at how much a 15 month toddler can pack into a life. There are so many of us who have lost loved ones and I think this time if year, if it means anything, is about not forgetting. Since then I have had three more wonderful grandchildren to love and cherish plus the older one who is now six. I count my blessing every day for the gift of them.

gracesmum Mon 31-Dec-12 15:12:18

You are one brave lady, Nanado - not a thing I could have done, but how wonderful for his parents that somehow you found the strength . flowers are not enough - I take my hat off to you xx