Gransnet?

Bruha I don't know why you are asking me.
As long as you are happy on here we're happy to have you.

Ella 46

Found this on the introduction

What if I'm not a grandmother?

We have a shed for grandads (though we don't insist they stay in there) and lots of topics that are of interest to a wide range of people. So, while the overwhelming majority of our members are grandmothers, we pride ourselves on our inclusiveness.

I'm single too but have lots of hon. grandchildren hope I can stay as I like it here

Yes, I can't wait. Just have to get this house sold!

I hate blue Sundays.

The sooner, the better, Butty

Yes! We are waiting, Butty!

Butty you won't be lonely when you come back to the UK, you already have loads of people who have offered you somewhere to stay while you house hunt.

Butty Of course it doesn't. No doubt some people are just nasty and drive others away but certainly not all who are lonely deserve to be. My mother outlived all her siblings and was a widow for the last 24 years of her life. She wasn't completely isolated and she spent the last six years of it with Mr absent and me, in a house that was always full of visitors, but it wasn't the old age she had envisaged.

With all my family, except for one son who lives in the UK and a brother - my siblings, other son, grandchildren, nieces and nephews all live thousands of miles away.
I'm lonely now, so I'll probably be a lonely old woman. Doesn't mean I would have brought it on myself.

course not curse!

I'm going out.

No. 'curse they can't!. I thought Sel had put it up. #feelingstupid

Besides, I don't think posters can delete other people's posts or even their own for that matter. It must be GNHQ.

Take no notice of me.

Oh. I thought when they put it up it had a GN name with it. Perhaps not.

j07 I don't think posters put up that message; I think it's GNHQ isn't it?

What is all this "Message deleted by Gransnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted."? Why are posters putting that up?

Especially at quarter to nine this morning when I was still asleep!

Marelli heading for the shops #bravegirl

Your friend wasn't necessarily right MargaretX. A lot can happen in the years between a person being young and becoming old. Circumstances and life events can change people.

And even if an old person does seem "nasty" that is no good reason for letting them be alone and unwanted.

absent that's the one

I never thought of it like that Margaret. I have always felt sorry for lonely old people but maybe I should sit back and see if they did bring it on themselves. I suppose it doesn't apply to really old people as their friends may have already died. Maybe not though as a lot of my friends are much younger than me.

NellieSmol Alternatively, perhaps you're old enough to know better and young enough not to care.

It all reminds me of a friend of mine who used to be a district nurse. She said 'Nice young people become nice old people and usually have visitors or near relations who care. Nasty young people become nasty old people and are often left alone at the end'.
She maintained that a very old person with no one, had often brought it upon them selves. Especially the men who had sometimes been terrible fathers.

So there you are no one need become a crabby old woman but if we don't die then we will become old.

NellieSmol...that's my girl.

I am old enough to know what I like and young enough to enjoy it ...whatever age I am

'From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead' - I think it's part of the Apostle's Creed. Not bad for a Humanist, renegade Presbyterian?