Gransnet?

Welcome back rosannie stay a while!

I have just returned to Gransnet today after a long absence and this is the first thread that I have read - a timely reminder of why I became disillusioned with rambling, moaning, negative, argumentative and pernickety comments!

I have always just been me, I have grown up with myself and we have always been best friends and exactly the same age

Yes absent I meant you. I thought it was very obvious what I was saying. I pointed out what I meant by my posts, yet you still chose to twist what I wrote. It is quite frustrating when someone puts my name to something I have not said.

Faye I am sorry if I have misrepresented what you said. I was trying to contrast your point of view with Bags' as they seemed to me to be at opposite ends of the spectrum. You did suggest that you feel a different age – I think you said 17, the one at which you "came into yourself" – from your age in years and you contrasted your feelings with those of a crabby old women. I have checked and this does seem to be what you said but perhaps you actually meant something slightly different. In which case, as I have said, I am sorry for misrepresenting your view.

Well, at least I assume you meant me when you talked people twisting your words, not because I have deliberately done so but because I endeavoured to point out this contrast.

I have changed a lot over the years but am still not sure I am 'grown up'.

I am far more impulsive than I used to be
I don't plan ahead as much as I used to
I don't care as much about what other people think
I wear what I want to rather than what might be seen as 'appropriate'
I stand up for myself and others in situations where I might previously have run away and hidden
I don't suffer fools in the way I used to
I occassionally now put myself first

I could probably go on and on.................

I am also fitter than I was when I was younger (apart from my sudden bad back which will hopefully go away soon)

Faye just read this and think your post is excellent just as it is without anyone interpreting it.

Thank you soop.

Faye...Your Friday post makes total sense to me...at the grand old age of 71. Thanks for some down-to-earth common sense.

absent you are choosing to twist what I have posted. Why would you do that?

Did Sel say anything about being bored?

I hope people don't start 'opting out' instead of staying and making interesting comments.

On the contrary Sel, childish point scoring is not at the heart of this thread or even on the periphery. It is about how we perceive old age and ourselves in old age. There are those, such as Faye in her last post, who seem to regard old age as a time when people become crabby, contrary and nit picking. Understandably, these are not characteristics she wishes to acquire so she describes herself as feeling younger than she is. (I think she said 17.) There are others, such as Bags, who just look at life as a continuum and rejoice in each stage, refusing to accept a pejorative image of older women imposed by others. There are also other viewpoints. I think it's very interesting, but, as always, you can opt out of reading any threads that you find boring.

I don't think I'm a grown-up. To me, that implies a state of stasis. I hope I'll continue to grow in all sorts of ways as I become older. So far I seem to be maturing out well. Not always in a wise and knowledgeable way, but I am seeing more, and hearing more, and accepting more, and understanding more of what I see around me.

Faye It's almost humourous isn't it? I wouldn't have believed the mindsets encountered on here, must be a great deal missing in people lives that they need to resort to such childish point scoring. So agree with you. It's funny how the whole tone of Gransnet changed in January.

Faye

I love how posters twist things and read whatever they want, ignore what is written and then argue about it. Let it be known as a 60 year old I am a mature woman and happy to be at this stage of my life. I also have a love of life and getting old will never take that away. I don't wish and will not let myself become a crabby, contrary old woman who nit picks posts because they can. End of conversation.

NO! Anno I claim that! (If they ever tie the knot)

"j07 Only if they can compartmentalise to the point of psychosis."

Clever sounding talk absent, but total claptrap.

Thanks absent. I had to scroll back a long way to find out what on earth I had said! nightowl - the Gloria Steinem quote and your gloss on it say what I meant. Could I change my forum name to belle mere? I wish I had thought of that - so much less austere than mother-in-law.

Nor mine! Merci, ma cherie!

Mais tu es une tres belle mere! (Sorry, my laptop doesn't do accents, or as the kids at school used to say "dashes")

As a MIL I would like to be a 'belle mere'
Some hope! They're not even married!

absent I am and at your words of praise, and at being placed in the illustrious company of anno as well. [Bowing] emoticon!

However I cannot claim any credit for the words I posted, I was simply quoting one of the greats

Although 'une sage dame' is exclusive to us.

I suppose they could be The Boy, The Father and The Sage.

No, the men are there as equal partners. But we need a name. Suggestions please.