or even childish - but does anybody understnad how I feel?

I am a newbie on this site but so far have felt most welcomed, but I do empathise with you, I have been in a similar situation and it is hurtful if, for whatever reason you feel out of the loop. Perhaps the new girl on the block was just trying to make herself out as the `joker` of the group because she is unsure where she fits into a well established group. However, if there was perchance any intentional disrespect towards you then I think you should take the wind out of her sails by being exceptionally nice towards her next time the group meets. This would put her immediately on the back foot and reinforce in the minds of the original group just what a nice person you are. Remember the old adage `Keep your friends close but keep your enemies even closer!` Hopefully though this will all shortly blow over and you will become genuine friends.

I would never notice if someone had been left on an email. I don't look at who is on the address list.
I don't think there was an intention to upset you but perhaps you are ready to be upset due to how you feel about the new member?

Also - why be 'tongue in cheek?' Isn't it best to be direct and ask why you had been left off the list ?

For all you know - that newest member may have picked up on your dislike of her and maybe posting somewhere about how you have been unwelcoming or making her feel unwanted??

Sometimes - we concentrate so much on how WE feel - we fail to recognise the effect we have on others.
There is always more than one way of looking at something.

Awl to eesally

I didn't notice the typo until you mentioned it, Gracesmum, now I am shocked, how could you do such a thing. #sacrilegeflippingbleh

jadey - knd thought, but I think I did get it off my chest, don't you? I still cringe at the typo though !!!
As I said - I have forgiven (maybe ) but I never forget

gracemum couldnt you speak to someone about it, you know get it off your chest. Dont be a victim, if they dont want you there it will be their loss!!

And in my Mums words ### them

Personally I think that there was no bad feeling intended.

Apologies but I do get a bit angry when people are treated badly.

Her behaviour was very rude and hurtful. With her complete lack of manners and sensitivity, no doubt she will upset someone else in the group before too long.

thats the way grace

I have risen - I am above it ! I can forgive, but I never forget [mysterious] emoticon

Just say to her, "Only spoilt children have tantrums so You should know all about that" Smile and walk away.
Dignity intact.
Rise above it,- it doesn't matter.

gm you are right to feel aggrieved. I would address the whole group and point out not only how hurt you were but how that bitchy response made it a hundred times worse. Why shouldn't you? - she copied that to everyone - she deserves to be exposed as a potential troublemaker. As they all know and love you of old, they will understand. There's too much turning of the other cheek these days - if you let it go, she will probably never know that she has caused pain.

Devastated, eh? Well, that sounds like an appropriate emotion for the situation (not!). Rise above it gm. You know she knows that you know what she's up to (dizzy now!)

grace they say keep your friends close and your enemies even closer

Methinks she speak with forked tongue, gracesmum. Put it behind you but keep one step ahead of her.

We're right behind you, gm. Don't let the something crossed out lady get you down.

Apparently she is devastated that she upset me - not that I have even had a jokey "Oops sorry" or anything.Yeah, right. I will put it behind me but it doesn't bode well for the future.....................[mysterious] emoticon

At least it wasn't the (re) recent favourite 'calm down dear...'. I'd be upset too, but would try and put it behind me asap.

It's ko - we unnersnad garcesmum

I wish you lot were in my book group - it would be hilarious!
But how I wish I hadn't made a typo in the thread title - it jumps out at me every time I look at it!

Gracesmum, I've just caught up with this. I can understand how you feel but maybe you should have invited some men to join and let her play with them to keep her out of trouble.

But Grace. said she does flick her hair and simpers . Well she is not doing that for other women .

Should I use good old fashioned carbolic ? oh no I can"t haven"t got any !

laugh !!!

stil got a smigen here

Nonu, haven't you heard that 'a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle'?

Wash your mouth out, dear Nonu

Er..... !!

Why does your description of said woman not surprise me at all ? Perhaps if she gets a bloke she might be sweeter !!!!