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Bill sharing

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celebgran Sun 03-Mar-13 08:32:10

Oh gosh am still fuming went out with our old "friends" restaurant was not very good my friend had steak sauce extra OH and I had the special s and k pud was not very good starters good tho which we all had friends husband had sweet neither of us did and they split the bill! Would not mind but since they inherited money they brag for England about their jag! Their 3rd. We are not going out with them again for meal!
I would not have minded if we had similar stuff who wants argue about bill. We always seem to be made mugs of!
We get on much better with our other 2 couples we socialise with sad when we been friends so long!

Maybe I am being unreasonable?
Have to explain they our estranged daughters godparents which does not help!

celebgran Mon 04-Mar-13 09:49:47

Oh kitty that is funny! Maybe sign of times but we find our friends much stingier now ! Think most people watch the cash and is sad really that no one seems to want to give an inch ! Just bound feel like that after sat!

petra Mon 04-Mar-13 17:10:08

I have a friend who over the years has rearly taxed our friendship with the money issue. when we go for lunch, she has a G&T, i have coffee because as always, i'm the driver. when we get to the car park she has a very clever habbit of holding back as we get to the pay machine; i have tried to do it but i always seem to be the one who gets there first.
And lets not forget that it is my petrol that picks her up and drops her home.
But i am getting wise to it all. when she suggests that we meet up i lie and say i havn't got my car so i will meet you in town.
Its such a shame as she is such good company other than this money thing.
And no, she is far from poor.

kittylester Mon 04-Mar-13 19:31:51

My daughter's MiL, who happens to live in the same village as us, which is approx 20 miles from DD, SiL and 2 DGC, goes once a week to pick up the children from school and nursery, as I do. For any extra trips, such as going to the panto with them at Christmas [a treat from DD and Sil], she always asks for a lift. We don't mind this, as she has less money than we do, but we do object when, as we enter the car park, she remarks on how expensive it is but doesn't offer to pay or contribute and, if we buy ice creams etc at the theatre, she offers the money for hers.

fillygumbo Wed 06-Mar-13 20:32:18

YANBU celebgran it somehow feels so unjust when that hppens, you cant help feeling cheated. Some dear friends of mine thought they had been invited out, they had previously hosted the last dinner party when this couple invited them to a rather posh restaurant. Being aware that they thought someone else was picking up the tab they chose very conservatively while the other couple tucked into lobster thermidor, little realising they were expected to split the bill and much to embarrassed to say anything. ....!

Hunt Wed 06-Mar-13 23:23:57

when we were newly married we went to a posh restaurant in london for a family get together.We were rather poor at the time so ordered sausage and mash and a glass of water. The other wealthier members of the family had starters, wine and desserts. As you can imagine the bill was split- the most expensive sausage and mash we are ever likely to eat. And to cap it all , when we left someone had nicked my OH umbrella!

celebgran Thu 07-Mar-13 21:11:18

Ohfillygumbo how horrid for them! Thank you this still rankles we will never eat out with them again! Stick to seeing them in each others houses for takeaway or dinner party!

Jadey Thu 07-Mar-13 21:22:45

Correct me if I am wrong celebgran but is it really about the bill or are you just sick of their bragging.

I have come to know you some what from your posts and this thread does not sound like the celebgran that we all know and love.

If it annoys you, you have two choices...a, say something about it, let them know that it is bothering you and still have them as friends and b, give them the big E as what kind of people are they anyway if they brag in thsi way.

celebgran Mon 11-Mar-13 22:40:43

Jadey you are right is complicated due to lady being my oldest friend we all have our funny ways including me but yes sadly they have become insufferable since they inherited money it is for our benefit I suspect as surely they can't brg like this to their poorer friends?!

The other complication is they our estranged daughters godparents and we feel annoyed at their actions in this sorry said was complicated!