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10 bunches of flowers

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JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 14:20:26

AIBU? DH has sent me a box with 10 bunches of flowers and I feel cross and upset. They are not specially nice. Some of them are a bit battered. I would rather he bought me one bunch of nice daffs or tulips rather than responded to someone's marketing email. I very rarely feel upset with him. I will have to get over this before he comes home. But not sure why this has so far missed the mark. sad

vampirequeen Wed 20-Mar-13 14:26:00

Is it not the thought that counts?

janeainsworth Wed 20-Mar-13 14:33:10

Yes, you are being a bit unreasonable Jess
How was your DH supposed to know the wouldn't be very special?
Poor love I feel quite sorry for him grin

Ana Wed 20-Mar-13 14:34:36

I get a similar sense of DH not really knowing me when he always gives me the sort of card that he likes for birthdays etc., when he knows our tastes are completely different in that regard. I know it's trite, but yes I suppose we should just be glad that they do send us cards and flowers, as vq says!

gillybob Wed 20-Mar-13 14:35:13

Blimey 10 bunches JessM???

Is it a special occasion or is there some special reason why he would send 10 bunches? Perhaps he didn't realise he had ordered that many???Please try not to be too cross with him. Sometimes men feel dammed if they do and dammed if they don't (kind of thing) confused

I got a lovely bouquet of flowers delivered to work this morning from DH for our wedding anniversary. It is not a particularly significant one either. I was quite taken aback as its not something he would normally do at all. smile

Mishap Wed 20-Mar-13 14:43:21

Gift horses and mouths and all that. Just be glad he sent you you them.

OH always sends me large tacky cards and often bunches of flowers on Valentines etc. - frequently theyrerally are not what I would have chosen. I am just glad that he bothers to send them.

It's the thought that counts and all that.....or are you supicious of the thought behind it?!!

Be glad, smile and say thank you!

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 14:51:49

No not suspicious at all mishap . It is partly the fact that they are,apart from the 3 bunches of pink tulips, not that nice and some decidedly past it. If I had paid for them I would complain about the quality. Don't order flowers from Wiggly Wigglers. In fact online flowers never that great I think. They are not designed to be put in a box and kept in the back of a van for a long time are they. Mood improving.

Bags Wed 20-Mar-13 15:09:54

YABU because it is the thought that counts. Maybe the ten was a mistake, as someone has suggested. It's a shame if they are not nice, but that's probably (in fact, almost certainly) not his fault. Do what you can with the good ones and compost the rest.

And be grateful he is so thoughtful!


gillybob Wed 20-Mar-13 15:28:31

Hmmmm JessM Wiggly Wigglers. They are normally quite decent. I think you should take a photograph of them and send it to them. They are not cheap either. Sorry if that adds fuel to your fire.

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 15:41:26

I'm trying. Not a talented arranger. Looking like the church vestry here, before the flower arrangers arrive. I think he was probably envisaging lots of seasonal ones instead of armfuls of chrysanths. Bless him.
There is a particular feeling about having an unreasonable feeling isnt there. Perfectly valid straight forward emotions so much easier.
I think he just wanted to say thank you for my recent heroic efforts to get a few things organised.

gracesmum Wed 20-Mar-13 15:44:03

I always feel guilty if I get flowers that do not come up to scratch or last any time - as if it is my fault. It's not so bad when the giver isn't there to see how quickly they hit the green wheelie bin, but harder if it is DH. Bless him, at least he tried - if not quite hard enough! Give him a hug and say they are lovely but he really shouldn't have. (And drop a hint in a little while Waitrose or Flying Flowers are generally more reliable!)

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 16:33:07

Thank you gracesmum - weird isn't it.

Bags Wed 20-Mar-13 16:45:24

smile Wiggly Wigglers do nice worms though. Do you have a wormery?

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 17:25:07

They do brilliant worms. We bought some for the new garden and compost bins. It was strange getting handfuls of worms through the post. grin
Anyone see the programme about eating insects etc on TV this week?

Oldgreymare Wed 20-Mar-13 17:27:56

With you there Jess!
No. 2 son sent me flowers for Mothers'/Mother's day, they must have cost a fortune. He'd specified the colours yellows, creams and purples as he had sent me flowers like that before and they were really lovely. This time the florist (a different one) had interpreted his instructions creatively!
His thought was lovely, I was cross that someone had 'taken advantage' of his generosity. The arrangement included 2 very large Arum Lilies, that would have freaked someone who thinks they are more suited to funeral wreaths (like my lovely Mum, for instance). I can only assume there were fewer funerals that week and the florist was stuck with a few afore-mentioned Arum Lilies.

NfkDumpling Wed 20-Mar-13 17:37:38

Yes, I saw the insects programme. I could probably quite enjoy the crispy fried grasshoppers and smaller stuff but some of those things were just too big. I don't know whether the flesh in something that size would be firm or squidgey. I couldn't cope with squidgey!

And, yes Jess YABU. My Best Beloved wouldn't know where to go to buy me flowers - I think after 44 years I would worry if he did!

Mishap Wed 20-Mar-13 17:39:29

OH once bought me some flowers and handed them to me - they were so ancient that the petals all dropped off as I put them in the vase - it was a bit embarrassing. I felt very sorry for him and furious with the florist who had sold him a dummy - she really saw him coming!

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 17:59:23

Cheered up now folks. Thank you.
That's funny OGM. Nice to hear from you. Did your visit to the races prove bracing?

Butty Wed 20-Mar-13 18:23:46

Yes, being unreasonable Jess. Flowers = all's good. Chuck some, add stuff from the garden and hey presto!
Glad you're feeling better, regardless of the OTT overtures. wink

JessM Wed 20-Mar-13 18:56:31

One of those days. Apparently I sent 2 ebay packages to the wrong people - which i kindly offered to organise for him. Am now in doghouse and he wishes he could send flowers back . grin
Reminded me
a/ don't do an admin task requiring attention to detail just after getting majorly flustered about an admin task that requires attention to detail. It just is not my forte.
b/ ebay is a pain in the backside.

Stansgran Wed 20-Mar-13 19:01:52

When my first DGD was striving I ordered an arrangement of flowers in shades of pink to greet mother and daughter as they arrived from the best florists in this city. Purple and green was the overall impression. I rang up. I've some lovely green chrysanths she said. Green is not pink I said and had to repeat myself three times

Stansgran Wed 20-Mar-13 19:20:00

Arriving not striving. Sorry

susieb755 Wed 20-Mar-13 19:48:30

WTF, be grateful you still have a DH, and that he sent flowers, get over it ! smile

susieb755 Wed 20-Mar-13 19:49:34

Sorry, that was rude, had a bad day.... if only someone would send me some flowers.....

Jadey Wed 20-Mar-13 20:16:41

jess I do understand were you are coming from, I think you are probably hurt thinking that he did not make the effort and just bought anything from the internet.

There is usually a reason for this--when I got the same treatment from my OH I asked him why did he not put any effort and he said that I never like presents that he buys me and he was right so then he stopped putting in the effort.

I couldnt help it, he would buy me stuff and I would just put it at the back of the cupboard. smile