that they will not be bringing the grandsons here on Easter Sunday as they are going to a hard boiled egg competition in the local park.
They have come here, and had a lovely Easter Day, (egg hunt in the garden, outing in the afternoon) since the older one was born. And now they are not coming because of a local authority painted egg thing in a poxy Outer London park!
It's not as though they never do anything locally. Only this weekend they have gone to drama/football Saturday morning, then straight on to a cub sleepover, and now older one going swimming with youth club.
She proposed coming here on Easter Monday, but it's not the same. They don't need to do everything that's going. I think she is in danger of making them selfish.
I have said, no Easter Sunday visit, no Easter eggs.
You too when. 
Yes, you've redeemed yourself Jingle. We should let it go now. I hope you and the children have a lovely Easter
I agree. I probably was being unreasonable.
Can we leave it at that now please.
Jess! That's not necessary. Oh, never mind! 
I've already said it all.
Have just texted DD: "If A (Grandson) did by any chance overhear that they would not be getting their Easter eggs, you'd better re-assure them that they will. On Monday. I can't possibly eat all this lot!"
That will do the trick. (she knows me)
Goodness j08 – a bit of a storm in an eggcup really but I am glad that you are feeling reassured and happier as a result of the other grannies' sensible and affectionate posts. They are all good eggs. Have a lovely time with your family at Easter whether you see them in the park on Sunday, at your home on Monday or even both.
And to you Mishap.
I think I forgot to say thank you for all these very kind replies. I have taken them all on board and it is much appreciated. 
Hug greatly appreciated Ariadne.
^Galen (((hug)) to you (as always) x
Jo
I would not ever want my DDs to resent 'having to visit' us! I know I am very fortunate to have family so close that they can pop in regularly and it not be an 'occasion'. So when they have other plans for high days and holidays I don't feel I am missing out.
This year I have offered to do a brunch on Easter Sunday so they can come for an egg hunt & brunch and still have time to do their own thing if they want to. Although oldest DGC only 7 but she still has things at home she likes to do.
I agree with others that sometimes as grandparents we have our ideas about what 'tradition' is but life moves on and traditions get tweaked by the next generation and evolve!
Enjoy your Easter Monday J08
Jingl I know what you wrote was written in haste and that you've since had a rethink - you'll cope, the grandchildren will get their eggs, and a 'new normal' will have begun.
I am feeling particularly fragile at the moment as I have just bought Easter cards to send to my 'absent' grandchildren; it always gets me a little teary because it sets off a train of thought wondering if I'll ever see them again or, in the case of the youngest, at all.
I'm trying hard to count my blessings and am very thankful that I am so involved with my youngest grandchildren.
jingle does it matter Easter Sunday or Easter Monday, I dont think it does. When we had a young family we took a stand to put down our own traditions and tried to include the older generation, your family has asked you to join them on Easter Sunday you go along and you might even find you enjoy the routine being shaken up a bit, we can get stuck in a rut as to what order we expect things done and our feathers get a bit ruffled but I think if you go with the flow you will enjoy your weekend and maybe even a little bit more than normal... go on give it a go. The Grandchildren will be desperate to see you.
I sometimes cringe when I hear someone being 'needy'. I always say, and I mean it, that as long as the family are happy and well I am content to see them as much or as little as is convenient to them. DD2 was unable to see me on Mother's Day, as she was out with the childen for the day, and that was the way it should be, as it was her day too. As long as we all know that we care about each other all is well.
Jings
I remember when, after taking my daughter to school for years, I had to ask my dear mum and dad to let her go on her own. My mum and dad were heart broken and I felt terrible.
It wasn't that she no longer wanted them, she was growing up and she was changing. Are you not so sure that is perhaps the worry you are feeling. In other words, will this be the way things might be heading.
I have noted you are close to your family and I understand how you are feeling. I too have a 7 year old GD and I am waiting for the day when I will be in the same situation as I placed my dear mum and dad, it will happen. Our families work hard, try to balance life as best they can and if they are having fun does it have to be an issue. You know they love you, this would be a silly thing to have words over.
If I know kids they can't wait to get there eggs from you and you will feel a lot better when you see them.
It's a sign that the children are growing up, Jingle, they have ideas of their own and want to do other things. It is hard to accept these changes, I really do understand- my daughter has already told me that her children want to spend next Easter and next Christmas at her house, and I found myself feeling very disappointed. But as someone has already said, they have to be allowed to establish their own traditions and we must step back. They will still want to see you, from some of your posts you sound very close to your family, and Easter Monday will be fun, it is still part of the holiday.
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