Hi everyone I am new here and decided I needed other grans help...I apologise in advance for how long this might be...
.I have a 20yr old son who has a beautiful little girl...
in the beginning of his relationship he was just casually seeing a girl who ended up pregnant within a month ...
I accepted this but found out that she had also slept with someone else during the same time....trying not to judge but obviously worried I sent my son a personal message asking if he was sure he was the dad and saying no matter what I would stand by him ...
This ended up with his partner going into his private messages and reading what was for my son
she then demanded she was to be marched up to my house and told my son he was to shout at me in front of her or else! I felt awful but was adamant that I was only doing what any concerned mother would do and was asking to make sure
...meanwhile she demanded that I apologise or else I wouldn't get to see my future grandchild...
That was just the start of it ....
I also had my concerns because prior to this she lost a baby to someone else just a few months earlier who died of complications which I had full sympathy for as I have been through the same...
but I couldn't help but feel she got pregnant so quickly as a replacement ?
Anyway since this has all happened I feel as if we are living a nightmare ...I apologised then at the time to keep the peace and for the sake of my son and future grandchild..
my granddaughter was born and at the beginning for a few weeks she was fine with me seeing her ...
problems have arisen along the way in that my sons partner is very controlling I constantly have him up here telling me horrific stories like she locks him in the house..doesn't give him any money..threatens to slit her wrists...won't let him have any contact with family and friends...etc the list goes on it kills me to see him like this but he won't listen to any advice makes it up with her then i don't see him until the next big argument..
But her latest tool is my grandchild she makes every excuse up as to why I can't see her
.then says its my fault because I couldn't babysit once when I was going out, my son comes up every now and then and says he can only stay for half an hour...
or she says I can have her then changes it at the last minute so I can't..the final straw was being told i couldn't see her on her birthday to give her presents but her family were all there I was even told what I had to buy!
The latest blow is that my son has told me I am not welcome in there house which upset him...I asked her what I had ever done to deserve this and she says I owe her an apology because my sister said to my son he was being controlled by her ? And was upset because my son wasn't allowed to go to her wedding
None of it makes any sense I can't deal with it anymore I just want to see my granddaughter ive only looked after her twice but she does everything in her power to prevent it ...I am also out of my mind with worry for my son the whole thing is a mess from start to finish .....has anyone dealt with this that can offer me any advice sorry its long and a bit jumbled ..there is a lot more i could have said she has done but it would take forever to write down ...I am heartbroken and have tried to appease this girl but can't take much more .
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