To want to see my daughter and granddaughter

Thank you Greatnan.

I'm certainly glad, jingl!

To all of you good folk ,so many kind people , I thank you. I look at the faces of strangers now and realise again and again that there is no 'normal' family , instead there are human families . You , here, who are suffering like me, have taken time to support me I have nothing positive to report except I haven't cried for 36 hours but have sighed at the pain shared by so many of us and have felt less alone , thank you . My husband is a wise man who keeps telling me that I and you out there, have to be strong and fit for that day when we can reconnect with those we love .
I wish you all peace in your heads and hearts .

Dear All,
I have spent the last three days, holding my breath as I received a stream of photos of my beautiful grand-daughter - and now I've received pictures of by beloved daughter's new home . Finally she began e-mailing , and I hardly need to tell you how much of a difference it makes to a life . I can't say where it will lead but I'm not putting any question to her that she could say no to so I'm hopeful that we can keep the channels open for communication as and when she feels she can . This website is such a support but I do feel this 21st century pain needs exposure . There isn't a church society to explain the wrongs in life ; we need to publicise these silent tragedies !
I send more support to you all out there who hear nothing from those you love , and wish you titanium strength to deal with the helplessness it brings .

Lovely news, otw. I'm so pleased for you. I hope things continue to get better. This is looking optimistic

Happy for you, otw

Patience and understanding has paid off!!!!! Well done you, I am so very pleased. Small steps but in the best of directions. xxxx

Lovely to hear that you are heading in the right direction, otw. Good luck for future contacts.

Such good news. This is your moment to "play it cool" and not, as you rightly say, go overboard with all the questions you must be truly dying to ask. Just keep the love flowing gently (not to drown them) and one day she will be ready to talk about it. I will think of you.

I've just read through this thread, felt so sad for those grandparents denied contact and irritated at the odd crass remark - but what good news for you otw, I hope the future continues to look bright

Lovely to hear it's l turning out well.

Did your daughter quite suddenly, out of the blue, start sending you the photos or did you have to contact her? You don't have to say of course,but it would be interesting to have some feedback on the advice given.

Again, glad things are getting better.

Thank you all for all the good wishes; the e-mailed photo was completely out of the blue; I say that but it's so strange because they ( missing loved ones) are in your thoughts all of the time and then when they materialise it is so hard to believe! I heard your wise advice mishap and my dear daughter is sharing her life with me via e-mail. Her change of heart was as unpredictable as her enacting the exile . I am managing the hope quietly with my husband begging me not to expect us to return to the happy state we had before instead , he says I should aim for a gentle and slow reconciliation . You lot are a fantastic support but somehow this tragedy of the lost generation of grandparents needs airing ; thanks but hope for all of you who have not yet had a positive development .

Otw10413,
That is great news, as already has been said, easy does it, the past is just that,the past, it is now and the future that is important. The rebuilding of a meaningful relationship between you has started.
As you say this situation needs to be out there for others to understand and I for one hope I am doing just that.
I look forward to hearing more news from you.
I have had contact in the last month with 4 other grandparents who are beginning their own steady journey of being reunited.