Hi gransnet friend feeling really down today. Hubby away back to America for four weeks. He took me out for a lovely bar lunch yesterday but darling daughter presumed we were all going . So as you can see we are bad parents. We had a family BBQ on Saturday bouncy castles all family so why are we made to feel guilty because hubby wanted to go on our own. I mean the kids have been at our house every day for the last three weeks eating both lunch and dinner . So the out come is I'm dreading tomorrow which should be my birthday as I think she is going to do her best to spoil it. So I feel like running away so I don't have to see them. What she forgets is she has two brothers who never seem to have my full attention. I thought life would be easier but it just seems to be one drama or another her way or no way. This happens every now and again so you would think I be used to it. I will wait and see what tomorrow brings joy or sadness but I'll wish myself a happy birthday . Anne09 
for me xx
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Happy birthday for tomorrow - don't let her spoil your day
Happy Birthday Anne and don't let anybody spoil it .
Happy Birthday for tomorrow, Anne. And remember this: you have done nothing wrong. Eat 
, drink and 
and be merry!
Tell her to get over it. You and your DH are entitled to have a lunch on your own. Does she take you everwhere she goes ?
Happy Birthday.
How old is your daughter? I think one of the first things we have to learn as adults is that our parents have their own lives. In years to come I bet she'd be appalled if you expected to be included in everything she was doing. You say it's her way or no way, but it needs to be the family's way and she fits in with that. Sounds so easy doesn't it 
Good luck and have a lovely birthday
Anne Happy Birthday for tomorrow, but dont let her grind you down, enjoy your day
Happy Birthday Anne. Cheers!
Happy birthday Anne - have lovely day.
Anne Have a lovely birthday with your husband
It's your life!
Happy Birthday Anne
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday. Think only of your own wishes for once.
Anne have a Happy Birthday to-day and treat yourself do something you wouldn't normally do and enjoy. [cake] & more
So many Mums martyr themselves (self included) because we don't want to hurt/upset/inconvenience our offspring. Goes with the territory, but with the support of friends who truly understand , sometimes you have to take a deep breath and say No, me first. Not easy (I know, I'm rubbish at it, but at least I recognise the principle)
Happy Birthday and maybe a or two!
I was away with my husband for my birthday earlier this month so my son met me 2 days before the day and gave me my pressie and my daughter said "See you when you get back, love you lots". I am surrogate mother to a whole host of young adults apart from my own two, extended family, nieces and nephews etc and I told them all, "I'm off on holiday, save your dramas for when I get back!" 
Strangely enough, they managed without me for 2 weeks!
I hope you had a nice day, happy birthday
Happy Birthday Hope you had a peaceful and private celebration!
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