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how do you feel when someone gives you a present that you once bought for them!

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bikergran Sun 27-Oct-13 12:03:47

IT has happened to me not once but twice now.
a year or so ago one of my friends turned 75 she is fully up to date with it and certainly not! loosing marbles..for her birthday I bought her a lovely pair of Laura Ashley garden gloves, very nice they were too all flowery etc and cost around £10, we used to have a joke that even when she is doing the garden she is posh! smile anyway cut long story short, last xmas this friend gave me a little pressie(although we had said we weren't going to bother anymore) come Christmas day I opened the present and yes! you have guessed it!! "one pair of unused Laura Ashley garden gloves"!! shockI wan't sure how I felt as I had chosen this present carefully as friend knows I am a practical person and wouldn't want some thing that was shoved in a drawer.anyway!! today my other friend (yes I do have more than one lol) came to meet me as she had a present for me for tomorrow, it was a little bag with some bits in (we have a joke that we only buy each other stuff from the £1 shop)anyway in this bag was something else! it was a cup! that she bought for her OH when were were out together one day (not from the £1 shop but from a popular market town I know it's the same one as it has a certain picture on the side.! I am to feel honoured or do a laugh or what! hmm

Elegran Sun 27-Oct-13 12:05:43

It is just possible that she found the gloves so useful and so pretty that she thought she would buy some for you too. Just!

thatbags Sun 27-Oct-13 12:14:11

Shrug and move on. Assume that they meant well. Don't buy any more presents for them that might come back to you.

JessM Sun 27-Oct-13 12:27:35

Laugh I think biker and maybe give up present buying for the women with everything? grin

BAnanas Sun 27-Oct-13 12:27:48

I'd find it quite funny, life's too short for grudges against a person who simply has a bad memory! Frankly we all get presents that we don't want, even from our nearest and dearest.

bikergran Sun 27-Oct-13 12:28:52

lol @ Elegran well actualy I was a bit when OH son and daughter in law visited..I said "Oh I have a present for you " lol I explained what had happened..and she was thrilled! with the gloves lol

bikergran Sun 27-Oct-13 12:30:00

lol lol what I should have done is re wrapped the gloves and given them back to her this year

Lona Sun 27-Oct-13 12:34:30

biker I think that giving them back again would be really funny (I do have a warped sense of humour).
You could see if she remembered and if not, say nothing, but if she did, you have a chuckle together!

gracesmum Sun 27-Oct-13 12:37:51

I dread doing something like that as I can never remember what I have given people in the past or indeed what they have given me. But if I had chosen something I liked, I suppose I'd be pleased. Moral: only buy presents you would like to receive yourself - you probably will!

janeainsworth Sun 27-Oct-13 12:43:05

Yes, I once gave some friends a good bottle of French wine which we had bought in Nice, and a few months later when they came round for a meal they brought the wine with them.
It later transpired that for some reason they are Francophobes and will not have anything French in their house.
So now when they come round I serve cheap Spanish red smile

Agus Sun 27-Oct-13 13:52:03

Years ago, for C........,I bought my MIL a framed print she had admired. I never saw it in her house, but, a couple of years later I spotted it hanging in her daughter's house!! Where, she knew I would see it. Good relations eh?

Every year she gave me M&S vouchers, so, I continued this charade by returning them beautifully wrapped, back to her.

BAnanas Sun 27-Oct-13 14:20:05

As Lona pointed out, you could wrap it up and give the item back the next year In fact you could carry on like that forever until one of you passes away, should you think you may go first, specify in your will for it to be gifted back to sender!

numberplease Sun 27-Oct-13 17:20:43

Our 2 younger daughters birthdays are January 1st and 5th. My in laws weren`t renowned for giving birthday presents, but one year both girls, then aged about 7 and 5, unwrapped their presents from Grandma and Grandad S, to find inside each parcel a box of chocolates. On each box was one of those labels printed on the packaging, one saying "Happy Christmas Grandma from Anthony", and the other saying "Happy Christmas Grandad from Anthony", Anthony being one of their cousins, then aged about 16. Wonder how he would have felt if he`d known?

LizG Sun 27-Oct-13 17:38:10

That's one good thing about having a 'not so good' memory, I probably wouldn't notice if a present was returned. Many is the time I have admired necklaces worn by one of my daughters only to be told I bought the things in the first place.

Mishap Sun 27-Oct-13 17:46:48

The problem here in a small village is that everything you win in the many raffles cannot be recycled into the next raffle as everyone will know what you have done! I have won some real rubbish!!

annodomini Sun 27-Oct-13 18:07:24

In an organisation to which I once belonged, a certain cake was raffled and re-raffled so often that it became a health hazard. grin

Marelli Sun 27-Oct-13 18:16:57

I bought (what I thought) was a very pretty little pin dish at an Antiques Fair. I wrapped it up carefully in tissue paper and gave it to a friend for her birthday one September. That Christmas I got it back again, same tissue paper, but with Christmas paper round it as well. I wasn't too upset, because I did like it, but was a bit miffed because my friend hadn't liked it enough to keep it!
Was also a bit fed up when I helped another friend sell her stuff at a car boot sale - in amongst all her unwanted stuff was a picture frame that I'd bought her for her birthday....shock!

bikergran Sun 27-Oct-13 18:25:38

I think why I remember is because I always choose my presents carefully (or so I thought) I always like to buy some thing useful even though it may seem a bit of an odd thing to buy.

JessM Sun 27-Oct-13 18:46:07

slightly at a tangent but funny story on Mumsnet newsletter recently about the woman who wrapped 2 presents in identical paper - one full of sex toys (for a hen night or something) and the other a child's birthday present. And sent her child off the party with the wrong one!

BAnanas Sun 27-Oct-13 18:55:20

My mum was always winning rubbish from her Catholic church raffles whilst simultaneously being asked to donate to future ones. I did suggest that we donate some ghastly ornament she had won to a forthcoming raffle, they had many prizes, few worth winning, so she did, and then she won it back again! When it reappeared I did suggest that she should just bin it, which she did!

janerowena Sun 27-Oct-13 19:58:20

My sister loves really expensive scented candles, I do not. I bought her one two years ago and she gave it back to me last year. I was more annoyed that she hadn't remembered that I hate fake strong vanilla scent. It was fine though - MIL loves them too so it will be sent on to her! grin

Gally Sun 27-Oct-13 19:58:27

I live in a small village where things constantly go around. About 25 years ago I put some rather nice tartan curtains into a sale, they reappeared some years later at another sale and then 2 or 3 years ago they appeared at the windows of the playhouse in the nursery playground at the village school grin

AlieOxon Sun 27-Oct-13 20:00:48

The hobbits called them toecovers!

glassortwo Sun 27-Oct-13 20:30:13

My DH gave his brother back a bottle of wine that his brother had given him as a present DH had forgotten where it had come from but knew his brother would appreciate the wine as it was his favourite shock it was a numbered bottle, his brother laughed and said this is familar but took it all in fun.

penguinpaperback Sun 27-Oct-13 20:49:38

Perhaps it's a great compliment smile the gloves were so lovely your friend didn't want to use them for gardening, couldn't remember who had given them to her but as you're such a good friend she chose to give them to you.
Or the friend loves her gloves so much she wanted you to have a pair just like them.
And the cup was too pretty and genteel for other friend to give to the OH so of course she thought of you.
Or you have very cheeky friends. smile