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To expect my DDH to be the same as before his cardiac arrest?

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Flowerofthewest Thu 07-Nov-13 12:48:56

My wonderful DDH (as I have mentioned many times on different forums) suffered a cardiac arrest last year followed by pneumonia. Sedated for almost 3 weeks and in ICU for 6

He has made a wonderful recovery. He has been discharged from the Cardiac Unit after a follow up app. two weeks ago. He has got a lot on his mind due to waiting for radiotherapy for prostate cancer (low grade and curable)

The thing is, he does sometimes seem a little vague and forgetful. He is 73 and has a very active mind. Still lecturing and running courses. Giving talks on a regular basis. He does though either choose not to take notice when I tell him something (maybe a man trait) then say I never told him. He will remember later that I have told him. I think I am worrying unnecessarily. Our GP did say that his brain would not be 100% for at least a year due to the lack of oxygen while being resussitated at the hospital. They took 12 minutes to get his heart started again. He was lucky to have suffered the CA in A and E so they were there straight away. Because he has no memory of a couple of days before the cardiac arrest or of being in hospital for 6 weeks,(only the hallucinations due to ICU psychosis ) I have to go with him to the GP and other appointments so that information is clarified. He wants me to do this, I am not taking away any independence which I was afraid of.

In all other ways he is the same loving, sexy (to me) kind and helpful husband.

I hate getting frustrated when he dithers a bit. I suppose we are allowed to dither at 73 though.

Smileless2012 Thu 07-Nov-13 14:24:46

It is wonderful that your husband has made such a remarkable recovery Flowerofthewest (love your user name by the way). Don't forget that his cardiac arrest was a terrible shock for you and in the same way that it takes time for him to fully recover from it, it will take you time too. As for not always taking notice of what you tell him, that is most definitely a man trait.

We all get frustrated from time to time. Seems to me you are being wonderfully supportive and he is as lucky to have you as you are to have your loving, sexy, kind and helpful husband. flowers for both of you.

bikergran Thu 07-Nov-13 14:32:28

Flowerofthewest I'm sure your DDHs memory will improve as time goes by, DH has had 4 arrests and he is a bit vague for a while afterwards (I sound like it's a common occurrence don't I ) smile but yes I have noticed similar after the attacks, but then he is 78 so! hmm

Glad your DH is making a good recovery smile take care

FlicketyB Thu 07-Nov-13 16:32:05

There was some research published recently to say that anaesthetics can lead to some memory loss particularly in older people.

Flowerofthewest Thu 07-Nov-13 16:43:39

Thanks FlicketyB for that info especially. He was under anaesthetic for almost a month. Could be that. Thank you also ladies. It all helps. xxx

rosesarered Thu 07-Nov-13 20:50:19

with all that happened to your husband, it's amazing that he is still giving lectures, arranging courses etc. How wonderful that he is still with you and so compos mentis, it really doesn't seem anything to worry about just yet, but you could keep a diary as to how often things happen maybe, in case he needs to see a doctor in the future.My husband dithers all the time, and there is nothing wrong with him!

Flowerofthewest Thu 07-Nov-13 23:25:48

I suppose I can see myself in him when he dithers. hmm that's probably it.

Thistledoo Fri 08-Nov-13 18:43:18

So sorry to hear about your husbands cardiac arrest and the illness that followed. He will have had many drugs administered to him during his long stay in hospital which in itself is very challenging to his system, both physically and mentally. It really is amazing how well he seems to have recovered so far, but he probably has a long way to go yet. He will feel very dependent on you at this time, having lost. all his independence whilst in hospital. It definitely takes a bit of adjustment to pick up his life again.
Be kind to yourself and stay strong.
[hugs] flowers

Flowerofthewest Fri 08-Nov-13 23:50:24

Thank you all for positive posts. He was absolutely filled with all sorts of drugs to keep him sedated for over 3 weeks. Plus he was chilled for 24 hours to prevent brain damage. I AM so lucky he did not suffer brain damage. On

He did suffer hallucinations though - ICU Psychosis - at one point I really though another man had come back to me as they said that they wouldn't be able to tell if there was any damage until he was talking.

I was in his room and two nurses had left. My DDH signed that he wanted to write (he had a trachy) I held the pad for him and he wrote 'nice pair of legs'
I was mortified - this wasn't the man I married, this wasn't my man. I was very tearful and put the note in the bin in case the nurse (who he was obviously talking about -in my mind - saw it) When I got home I rang my best friend, my sister, his sister in tears. A couple of weeks later when he had his speech back we were talking about the strange things he saw in ICU. I mentioned the note and he said that he saw it made me cry and he didn't know why. 'I was talking about the mannaquin that was lying on the floor' Phew!!! he still couldn't believe that I never saw it.