No, I'd be hurt too. But I keep thinking back to my relationship with my mum [especially at this time of year]; thinking how awful I was to her and how upset she must have been [eg leaving home as soon as I could; later on spending every Christmas with my husbands family etc etc]. I wish I could make amends and the older I get the more I wish it. But it didn't mean I didn't love her and am eternally grateful for the way she brought me up and the things she taught me. My daughter and I were more like friends and her friends became my friends but over the past few years [probably since she had the children] I have become 'the granny' and not 'the friend' and I have no involvement with her social life. I'm just grateful to be included in her life at all, even if it is mostly in a child caring role. I feel far more pushed out with my son, who seems to spend most of his time with whichever girlfriend and her family he's with. Diffuse your hurt and anger on here [I think we need an emoticon specially for that because we have to use it so often!] and carry on keeping quiet 
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