My husband retired 3 years ago, with the intention of doing 'a little job' and catching up with all the things he had never had the time or the money for. I am still waiting for him to get started. Everything is a chore, and he blames his aches and pains which are no different to any other 65 year old. It is like now that he is not working he will go deaf,get aches and pains,there is no need to learn about the new technology,he is entitled to a rest; after all he has worked for 40 odd years and paid off the mortgage.
He doesn't like using the phone to speak to anyone and won't answer it. He makes a fuss about getting together with friends and family as well as making it awkward for me to invite anyone into the house.
I am quite a 'busy person' and enjoy the family and 2GC, meeting friends, craft work and have recently joined U3A and hope to be joining the local choir.
Although we have always been different it seems now that we don't have such a structured life, the difference is exagerated.
Has any one else had a similar problem ?
Whilst I like having something to do I do spend time with him on his terms but there does not seem to be any compromise. I am sure he needs to give himself permission to enjoy enjoy the hobbies he always claimed he wanted to do.
Help - I feel very fed up, and would like some suggestions.
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