Shall I wait or tell my Mum?

Gambit23 you sound like a lovely, caring daughter and I am thrilled you have decided to tell your mother. Many congratulations.

My dentist was the first to know with my third daughter (even before OH) because he wanted to do an XRay. These things happen.

Gambit 23

First off many congratulations, how lovely for you. I hope all goes well for you over the coming months and baby will bring joy to you and your family.

As for telling mum, I would be upset if I found out by accident my daughter had not told me. I think it is perfectly acceptable to tell mum exactly what happened and I am sure she would understand how easy it was for you to have broken the news to a friend. She might not understand why you still kept it a secret from her though.

Good luck.

Let us know what she says Gambit

Yes , tell her now, immediately, as soon as possible! My cousin's daughter let the news come out in dribs and drabs and by the time she thought to tell her mother she was 20 weeks and most of the world, apart from her Mum knew about it. Needless to say, despite putting on a brave face, my cousin was devastated (but there again, her daughter is very odd)

Gambit23

Right then - I'm off to tell her! Thanks everyone x

Say you are bursting to tell your friend but you wanted her to be the first.

Tell her!

Yes tell her your friend just guessed and mum is first on the list. Congratulations

I agree with jingl and everyone else.

I would be upset if my DDs hadn't told me after they had done the test. After all, if things don't go well, who will you want to turn to after your DH? She will be really excited and pleased for you, I'm sure.

And, as Tegan says, she may hear from someone else and be really upset that you hadn't told her first.

Congratulations, by the way!!

Include her in and she and she can share your joy or worries, if she's the sort of mum you usually confide in. I accept that my daughters have close friends and they will often confide in them before they see me, but there isn't a pecking order. It's lovely news for your family to celebrate. I hope everything goes well for you.

Tell her now, immediately, straight away and by the way CONGRATULATIONS

Ring her now! Lie about the fact she is not the first to hear!

I think that if you've told someone else and you planned to tell your mum anyway it would be best to tell her [a secret is never a secret once one person knows]. My daughter was having a few problems with her first pregnancy [everything turned out fine] so she wasn't going to tell me. Then, one day we were speaking on the phone. I'm very into horse racing and had been in the Desert Orchid Fan Club and it had been on the news that day that he'd died [at a ripe old age after a happy retirement, thank goodness]. She'd phoned me to see if I was upset, and I said to her that I felt my life was like a jigsaw puzzle and I'd reached an age where the bits were being taken away rather than added to. She hesitated for a moment, then told me I could start adding things back because I was [all being well] going to be a granny. It seems like only yesterday, but it was seven years ago. I suppose it all depends on your mum and how much she worries etc etc so only you can know what the best course of action is, but I think, in a case like this I'd be hurt if other people knew. Especially as the only other person in the world that this means anywhere near as much to as yourself [and the father] is your mum.

Hello Gambit23...if I were your mum, I would be overjoyed to hear your good news. Share!

Do you see your mum at all. The reason I ask is when my DD was pregnant and she didn't want to say anything till she had her first scan but when I saw her I could tell just by looking at her. I waited till she told me and then I told her I had already guessed. Some times when mums and daughters are really close there is not much that passes unnoticed.
She may well have already guessed.