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Yogagirl it explains lot if your horrid s I law got daughter o. Drugs, what an awful thing for you,

I did not mean want a break from you lovely ladies, I meant my general email Facebook gransnet addiction!

Imtotallynagree with smileless it keeps me going having you to share good and bad times with!

So tired we shopped til dropped were bit sad as should been day to go over Tors but glad we didn't upset ourselves . My lovely son flew to America today for work, he texted me just before take off to say how much he loved us both, that meant so much.
I got tearful hearing from his partner yesterday that he was off America and husband rang him sorrynifnalreadyn said this! He did say sorry mum, but I know how hard he works.

Bought lovely tankini for hol so pretty and also nice skirt from marks, pricey but looks good! Husband did well for trousers and 2 prs swim shorts.

Smileless you so right I worryingly times people must wonder what on earth we did!

Sleep well all, not sure what time is for you smileless but god bless and yogagirl keep strong, my heart goes out to you, thank god for your nice daughter we all here for you big hugs xxx

Thank you Smileless, continue to enjoy your lovely holiday with your DS, I love snorkelling, must be fantastic in Oz. 4u2

Oh dear sweet Yogagirl words fail me they really do. To be on the receiving end of such venom is quite frankly unbelievable. I'm so sorry that this has made you ill but it's hardly surprising.

I wish I could let my NS see this thread, but that would mean him being able to identify me and as much as I want him to read about the unbelievable behavior we are all expected to put up with, this thread is my sanctuary, a very precious and personal place where I can unburden my tortured and wounded heart.

What we are realising during this wonderful time with our DS, is that it really is almost impossible for him to accept our version of events bec. logic tells any one who has not had the misfortune to go through what we are all going through, that to be treated in the way we're being treated must be in response to some thing that we've done. It is quite simply incomprehensible, that people who have done nothing to deserve such treatment, could be treated in this way.

I am sending you some and Ozy to try and brighten your day.

Celebgran, a break from all this posting; I can't stay away from this thread even when I'm on holiday . Like Yogagirl I want to keep up to date with all of your news and it is lovely when some one has some thing nice to share. Hope you and your DH have recovered from his accident

Thank you Ashmore, what a lovely thought; if only such a spanner existed.

Another lovely day spent with our DS. Went across to an island where he and hubby went snorkeling. I was going to give it a try but the sea was a little too rough for me. Doesn't matter what we do, I could just sit an look at him all day long.

Enjoy your day every one. Best wishes

I Know what you mean Celebgran about having a break from all this posting, I keep thinking I'll have nothing more to write about, so I'll have a break from it all and then something else happens!! But I couldn't miss all the updates from everyone one here, I always want to know how things are going and even on occassions, the Good news!

I'm feeling really ill today, wondering if its link with situation as I was never ill before, each time I have to except my reunion with my beloveds wont happen, I get really ill again.
Sorry you will have to eat all those yummy Easter eggs Celebgran , you would think your D hearing about her dad having a car accident would wake her up, maybe it will!
Good you are finally talking to your NS about the situation now Smileless, he is obviously waking up to the reality of it all & I too don't want to keep talking about it all the time, but still seem too! Yes I got them lovely b/day cards, two of each, one to be sent and ripped up & the other to save in their gift bags for if we every get to meet again in the future. My ND was going to send them gifts & cards for their b/days, but will not now & has said she is washing her hands of her sister once and for all because of what happened yesterday: I've pasted this from another thread:
Yes our stories are all very much the same, my story is below somewhere, Nosmiles & I 'know' each other from another thread, so fully aware of all the sad & horrible situations over the years!
I went out and bought cute Easter cards for my beloved GC, which I want to send next week and I will put a beautiful peom in for my D called 'A Mother's day poem" very poignant, about how much a Mother loves her child, but will now let go". I'll try to post it on here later.
I have still been hoping for a knock on the door, a txt,email or even a hand written letter from my D, but yesterday all hope was finally dashed & I know I must move on & forget my beloved GC&D and I will not see them grow up, for sure now!
We live only 5mins away, off the same through road. I was driving in my car down said rd. when I passed a couple walking, that I then realized was my D & Narssistic s.i.l, they saw me first and as I passed my D shouted out very loud so I heard it as I passed in my car.."C**T" & my s.i.l shouted "nasty bitch" my toddler GS was walking along side them & I take it my darling little GD was in the buggy, but I passed so quick I didn't see. It really shook me up as I was hoping that maybe their marriage was becoming rocky again, as it always was before I & the rest of our family were 'cut out'
That evening my Nice D txt/ph me as she had been on FB where her cousin had put that he had collapsed with an ulcer & had been taken to hospital! ND wrote underneath 'wish you better....' then D (with Narsistic s.i.l) wrote..'.....that c**t above couldn't care less so fake, f***ing bitch' meaning my ND, but of course without the stars.
You would think my D had been draged up, reading all this, but no, she had a really good upbringing & only started acting like this when we were all cut out of her & her C lives! I think he has got her on cocain (which he takes all the time along with pot), as that would explain her terrible behaviour. So from all that I realize & have to except there is no hope now!

Sounds like the holiday is going well, wish I could throw. Spanner in the clock for you to make it last longer x

Morning ladies, well morning for you and early evening for me. Just had a lovely day wine tasting but we had to be careful not to get too carried away as it's been a very hot day.

Had a fab lunch, the food here is excellent but everything is rather expensive; thank goodness for credit cards . Lovely being able to spend so much time with DS and lovely DIL. We've been having quite a laugh sharing s's childhood antics with our dil but it's difficult when certain events remind the 3 of us of how things used to be.

Just the 3 of us last night as dil was tired after a long week at work and decided to stay in. Talked at length about our situation as s seemed to want to talk. It was OK I guess but I've told hubby I don't really want to discuss it with him any more. It's been reassuring to feel that he's more empathetic than he has been in the past, but I don't want to keep going over old ground. Just want to enjoy the time we have together as it's going so quickly and is such a precious time.

It's so hard Yogagirl when the birthdays of our gc that we cannot see come around. You've said your sending Easter cards, will you send bday cards as well?

You're so right Celebgran, just bec. some one says something about you doesn't make it true, but when you know it's a lie, it makes it so much harder to try and come to terms with.

Hope all of you are enjoying your weekend. We're going to a park tomorrow where you can hold Koalas . Can't wait. DS has been teasing me about it but you can't come all this way and NOT hold one can you!!

Best wishes to all you 'cobbers' from Oz.

Thank you yogagirl and smileless it not been easy week !

Smileless it sounds fantastic and you still keeping in touch well done! Whene in crete Afraid will be silence don't think is cheap using my phone abroad and we don't take iPad, gives husbnand and me break from my addiction !

Oz sounds amazing. Is sunny here in frinton but chilly breeze on Coast expect.

Try not to notice picture smileless and agree with yogagirl just enjoy don let other stuff spoil it

We had massive row yesterday usual husband blaming me for upset with Tor but did say horrid stuff first, all started in morrisions with grumpy old man behind us at checkout and I went to get treat for Rosie while husband unpacked, oh dear never mind we got over it and enjoyed lunch out.

I feel like disappointed In way built myself up for Monday husband was worried in case godmother saw little ones and I didn't all so difficult.

Have sent card to Tor telling her about her dad sadly she won't respond I doubt. Little ones won't get Easter eggs now, can't be helped. Oh dear will we have eat them!

Did have great night at triangle club near us with our good friends last night, cheered us up so much, husband work today must get on done very little housework this week !
Have good weekend everyone, hope Dollie libra chick ok and great hear from smileless and yogagirl.

Try keep spirit is up yogagirl is so hard I know, had bad night thurs kept dwelling on things horrid ones that Tor said about me, but someone said to me just because she said it does not make it true.

Enjoy weekend all of us

Morning Girls
So sorry to hear about your DH accident Celebgran, yes it would shake you up, sad he will not go on Monday to see your D, but leaving it till Mollie's B/day is a good idea, they may be a bit more soft hearted on her special day, good luck
I'm dreading turning the page on my calendar to May, which is my beloved GC b/day month, I had to put something on for that month the other day, and to read their b/day's on there, 4 & 3, it did me in for a couple of days, what with Easter! I've purchased an Easter card for Laila & Jack, to send next week and I'm going to put that lovely & heart renching 'A Mother's day poem' in for my D, her heart seems to be made of stone, nothing reaches it!
G'day Smileless in Oz, you could always dig a big hole down to take a peek at us down here (or is it you that's down under?), it's actually a lovley day today, bright and sunny & not cold You sound like you are having a fabulous time with your DS, Don't let the other matter upset & spoil your time there

G'day ladies. Feels weird typing this post knowing it's 1.20am in the UK. Another day of . Walked down to the beach yesterday which is only a 5 minute walk from DS's house and had a lovely lunch. If only the weather in the UK could be like this; Scarborough would be like Scarborough is over here.

Your poor hubby Celebgran, glad he's OK it must have shaken you both up so I can understand why you've decided to delay his visit to your d. as you say an incident like that puts things in to perspective. for you both.

Thanks for the good wishes granscotland. Funny you should say that we're on the other side of the planet Yogagirl, when we were walking back to where we're staying last night, hubby and I were talking about how strange it feels to be so far away from home.

Asked DS to put photos of s and gs out of sight while we're here but noticed last night there was still one out. Also a pic on the living room wall which I didn't go right up to but think is our gs. Isn't it awful when you're not sure bec. even though he lives just down the road you don't really know what he looks like .

DS finishes work today for 2 glorious weeks. We're going to get a bus in to Perth today, should be fun as it's years since either of us got on a bus.

Have a good day ladies what ever you're doing and take care.

Thanks celeb I understand now.

Not dim at all soutra, yes did shake us both up, made us realise we dont want the pain of another rejection will leave it until after our holiday. Daughters godmother offered to go keep my husband company but we really not got. Clue if good idea, just,building on Victoria wanting to see her dad last time and show him children, and heart breaking not to be able see little ones.

We were discussing it before husband went out and felt it may had distracted him, who knows never pleasant topic.

Think he will go alone maybe on mollie birthday our eldest Grandaughter one we knew, which is in June.

Took car In thisnafternoon have tracking done and health check all seems well thank goodness only months old !

Main thing husband ok.

Glad your DH is OK but it must have been frightening for him. Sorry but I don't understand the bit about the visit- was he planning to go with the godmother and how does the incident with the tyre change things? Sorry if I am being dim!"

No Jaine we have no contact no, for her

Did your daughter know your DH was intending to visit her celeb?

Oh dear my poor husband had accident in car last night thank god he ok, not sure what happened but tyre burst. He this must clipped car on traffic bollard, we don't know. Made right mess tyre, AA came out and they had to call another chap as of course they didn't have right tyre !

We had been discussing his visit with Victoria godmother next Monday, he is worried that after 5 years hell she will see our grandchildren and I won't.

Anyway now we decided he isnt going and have sorted stuff out of hers and put back in loft. We are now going to have day shopping for holiday bits instead. A scare like that puts it in proportion!

A agh smileless that sounds so good, can't beat hug from a lovely son as I can verify!

Well done for surviving flight, just have amazing time

Proud of you for managing update us! Enjoy every moment.

Sorry should check my posts, it should read 'Oz'

Have a great time in Ox smileless, enjoy the time with your son and catch the moments as they fly,

G'day over there in Oz, sounded like the flight was gruelling! but worth it to get a big hug from your DS. It's sunny here in good ole` blity, but we need some of that Oz warmth. Enjoy your stay on the other side of the planet Smileless and enjoy all that family love & hugs you can have some as you are on holiday

G'day from Oz ladies. Well I managed to survive the flight - just. OMG I thought it would never end . Only one hour delay at Manchester but by the time we got to Singapore, a mere 13 hours later, I wasn't at my best, hubby said I was as white as a sheet.

Can't express how I felt when we walked out in to the arrivals lounge and there he was. Just left my case and rushed over to him. Oh that long awaited hug was every thing I thought it would be, and more, so much more.

We all went out for a lovely meal last night. In bed for 10.00 pm and didn't wake up until 12.30 pm !!!.

and temp is 27. I'm 7 hours ahead of you all. Dear s will be here soon as he finishes work at 3.00pm and breaks up for Easter for 2 weeks on Friday.

Hope you are all ok. Best wishes

Not long now smileless hope flight wasn't delayed too long!
Will be so lovely for you safe journey and have fantastic time with your son and exploring oz x

Thank you Yogagirl and Ashmore. One hour delay on our flight which is a bit of a pain but could be worse and at least it's given me the chance for a quick catch up with you all.

Skyped our s yesterday before setting off and it was really strange for us all to be saying to one another 'see you on Tuesday. Miserable weather this morning so well be pleased to see some Ozy .

for you all. Keep

BON VOYAGE Smileless have a wonderful time with your DS

Nice to hear you had a good time at the wedding Celebgran, shame it was spoiled with your memories of your D wedding , so many things trigger the sadness, even watching 'come-dine-with-me', just now, made me sad, as the contestant kept talking about her nannie & granddad being her inspiration for her meal she was cooking and then they came in to advise with lots of hugs & kisses
Ashmore keep strong
and for all the other cut out nannies on here

Lucky Bride, we had our 18th WA in the Maldives. Don't think we will get back again, but a once in a lifetime will do.

So nice to see the posts over the weekend have a little more up beat thoughts
Have a fantastic holiday Smileless and hope your flight passes swiftly.

Looking for something out to do for around Easter, need to get away. Hope to have some moving news by then.